How many do you want?

Question

I have 2 now. I am pregnant with number 3. Everyone keeps asking me how many I am going to have. I keep saying however many God wants me to. 2 doctors told me I couldn't have kids and maybe I'm just wanting to overcompensate for that. I don't know. I love babies! I love it when they get older! I love it all. However, I have talkid to many people who have 3 and they all say they don't want anymore. But I talked to someone else who had 3 (they were all grown up now) and he said they should've had 4 so that there was never an odd man out.

So what do think? How many do have? How many do you want? Why?

I am 23 yrs old right now. Me and my husband are for whatever God wants. We joke around about 12-14 but he is okay with more or stopping.

Answer 1

Well - I have a 10 yr. old DD. and a 7 year old DS. When they were 8 and 5 we got pregnant with son # 2. We thought we were done with 2 and then I got pregnant - I guess God had other plans because I got pregnant 2 days after my period - that was the only "accident" we had and actually thought we would be OK. We were wrong. He is now 19 months old and I am pregnant with #4. This one was also obviously in Gods plan too because we were doing everything NOT to get pregnant and I did anyway.
So- obviously we were not suppose to have just 2 kids. But I am getting my tubes tied after this one for sure.
We are kinda nervous to have 4, and stressed because of finances, but I know it will be OK because it was meant to be and God is first in our lives. He doesn't give you more than you can handle.

Answer 2

I have 4 children here, 1 in Heaven (m/c baby). I honestly would've had as many as God allowed and I mean that literally. Even though people think it's crazy, I would've had 10 (or more) children. My husband decided to have a vasectomy after the delivery of our youngest as he doesn't feel he can afford any more- financially or emotionally. My youngest is 2 and I strongly long for more.

It seems to be the biggest rage right now to have 4 kids but there's no real magical number that will work for everyone. Some people will feel complete with one, some may have 6 and be waiting for more. I really don't have any silly answer like, you need to have 2 kids because most vacations are packaged for families of 4.

Answer 3

I wanted 2 or 4. I ended up with 2 and I'm happy with that. I wanted at least 2 so they could grow up together. I would of had more, but we couldn't afford any more when we were in baby mode and they are bit older now and are becoming more and more independent. I couldn't imagine starting over at this point. It's not possible now anyway. My husband had a vasectomy 5 years ago. But I'm happy with 2. I have a healthy/happy daughter and son and I couldn't ask for more than that.
But look at that one senator (can't remember his name or state) They have 16. And when she was in the hospital with #16 she was already thinking about #17. I say have as many as you want as long as you can afford them and take care of the ones you already have. My sister-in-law just had #3. When they get older they get on her nerves, so I don't know why she keeps having them. She hinted she may be interested in # 4 some time down the line. That's not right to me. She's not abusive to her kids, she just lets them do whatever so they stay out of her hair. I feel sorry for them. But if you are willing to take care of all of them and can afford to have more, and you and your husband are in agreement, go for it. It's your life.

Answer 4

I'm pregnant with #1 right now (a little girl). We want at least 2, probably 3. It just depends on where we are financially when that time comes. I can't imagine more than 3 though - that's a lot of kids!

Answer 5

I see a lot of people here want 3 or more kids. No offense meant but I am MAYBE doing 1, possibly two but for pete's sakes I don't have the money for more and I'm not having any right now anyway. Both the boyfriend and I want to have fun in our 20's and then we'll think about it.

Answer 6

well i have several hungred offspring, how ever i suggest that you stop for a few good reasons, #1 cost of living is on a raise, now im not sure of ur sitution but still think of ur family in the long run- more vaction money and better quality living; #2 helth reasons, once again i do not know ur sitution but as a women ages its is harder to have children with out there being any helth risks for both you and the child; and #3 how does your husban feel about more than 4 kids? no offence but in ur question u seem a tad self-centered. i hope i have helped you with ur choice

Answer 7

My husband and I are hoping I'm pregnant now. Personally I want at least 6. One to make my husband's mom happy as she loves kids and two so if my husband were to die I'd have my kids to take care of me and there because all of my husband's siblings has a lot of kids. Also becasue I love kids as well.

Answer 8

i have 1 right now its a girl and on friday i will have a boy i want 4 kids but who knows im tired of being pregnant..lol..im waiting at least 5 to 6 yrs my hubby wants more than 4 ... im making him get a vasectomy and im getting my tubes tied after having our 4

Answer 9

I have 1 and I am pregnant for #2. I have a boy and if I have a girl we are done and if we have another boy we will probably consider adoption a while down the line. I am sick of being pregnant.

Answer 10

I'm raising my niece, currently, and have since she was very young. I always joke that we are growing up together. I took over her primary care in highschool and she moved with me last year. My sister, her mother, wasn't ready to have children and then had trouble trying to find someone to adopt an ethnically mixed baby. She ended up having to keep her but she always resented it.

Since I've been raising one child throughout college, I can safely say that I really only want one biological child. I may foster or adopt later on in life but that is dependent on my husband's feelings. He, too, only wants one biological child and any others it would have to depend on our financial obligations and responsibilities.