I got pregnant at 21 and I was in college, so I hope I count. I did finish college and I am working on my Master's degree. It is harder going to school and being pregnant than it is to go to school and have a baby.
I think it is rare for anyone's future to turn out how they plan regardless of babies or whatever. There is always an obstacle to our dreams, whether that is illness, pregnancy, money, or whatever. But you can be successful. Maybe if we were living in the 1950's, kids would be a major obstacle, but that is not the case anymore. They are a lot of work, but worth it. You can do it! When I graduated, 3 other girls were pregnant, too. 2 of us are in grad school, and the other 2 are happy either staying at home or working (and they weren't planning on furthering their education).
edit: for the young age thing, I regret that we don't have much money to support ourselves better, but I don't regret my daughter. Make sense? I would do it over again given the choice. Their are pros and cons to everything, and I just try to look at the bright side, especially if I can't change something.
2007-03-07 06:45:35
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answered by mountain_laurel1183 5
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Dear Diamond,
There is nothing more precious in this world than having a baby. I will answer this question as truthfully as I can because I have been there , done that which was a long time ago. Hearing all these questions brings back alot of memories. (good ones). When I was 15 I met my boyfriend, I was still in high school. I also like yourself had big plans of going to college, getting a degree in psycology which I wanted to be a child pyscologist since I could remember. Anyway at 19 I wound up pregnant, Don't ask me if the baby was planned or not planned because now it really does not matter,. What does matter is what a woman feels when she is pregnant and how a woman feels when the baby is here. To make a long story short and to get to the point. Let me just tell you that all feelings of doubt will wash away once the baby is born. When I found out I was pregnant I had just startad my first semester of college. I went to 3 semesters of college, took off to have the baby, went back to college when my daughter was about 1 year old. You know it was relaxing for me as it was for the baby because while I was in class my daughter was right downstairs in the daycare. In most colleges they have daycare for children. By the time I was pregnant with my son I was in my third year of college and my son was always with me. Today I am a child therapist, have been for over 10 years. What I am trying to say is that every thing is possible if you want to make it happen. I am sure you will not give up on your dreams, having your baby will make you want to follow your dreams even more.
Good Luck
Ronnie C
2007-03-07 07:20:10
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answered by Ronnie C 2
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I was pregnant at 17. Gave birth just before I turned 18. Finished high school and college. No, things will not go as you planned, they will definitely be different. It's a good thing. Your child will keep you focused and grounded. My "baby" is now 21. I have a successful career, a great marriage (although not to the father of that child) and a decent life. Your life will go depending on the choices you make. You choose how you want to be. It is difficult. It will be harder than you can imagine, but you will be so busy that you will look back like I am now, at age 39, and realize that you did it. It's a great feeling. The rewards outwiegh the negatives. Just make sure that you stay focused on moving yourself forward, and also at the same time, giving your child a good start. Be militant when they are young and it goes much easier. My daughters would never outright do horrible things because they think I will kill them.....funny- they were never spanked other than 3 times each, once for going to a light socket, once for turning on the stove, and once for running into the street. All of those happened before they were 3. Just put a smile on your face, keep your chin up and don't let anyone take you down. YOU CAN DO IT ! ! Good Luck:)
2007-03-07 06:48:51
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answered by Shawn 4
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I got pregnant at the age of 17 and had my son when I was 18. I was a senior in high school and I graduated 8 1/2 months pregnant. I'm now 21 and my son is almost 3. You may be in college, but it's really not hard at all. Me being in high school, I had to put up with all the little goody goodies talking behind my back cuz u know how they are just so much better than us.........not. Anyway, all of my friends still loved me so I was happy. I was however out of school when my son was born. I'm sure if you have parents near by or a babysitter or someone you could have them watch ur baby while u were at school. Some schools have daycares on campus. BUT girl you really shouldn't be stressing!! Once u have ur little one everything will fall into place and you will probably look back and wonder why you asked this question. Before I had my son I had soooooooo many questions and I read sooooooo many different books, but to tell u the truth, I never used any of the advice I got from those books or qustions I asked. You will become a mommy and let me tell you that-that's all ur gonna need. You may not know how to be a mommy yet but believe it or not once that baby pops out u will pretty much know everything u need to really know, plus u learn as u go. It's not that hard so chill out and seriously don't be stressin' cuz school is no thing when ur pregnant and when he comes out everything will just fall into place.......trust me.......don't stress.........it's more fun than u think!!! Good luck!!!!!!! I never regret having a kid, my life would be so usless without him now.....u will know what I'm talking about!
2007-03-07 07:05:26
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answered by Anonymous
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2007-03-07 07:33:36
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answered by $Bl@Ck BuTtAfLy$ 3
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My husband and I were married very young. I was 18 and he was 19. I had just completed my first year of college when we got married. I continued my schooling and worked 1 or 2 part-time jobs until I graduated. Along the way, I had our first child when I was 20 and our second when I was 23. He was born during my last semester and accompanied me to college many days beginning when he was just 8 days old. I completed a semester of student teaching and graduated when my children were almost 3 years and 7 months old. It was a very hard time in my life, but I had the support of my husband who was also working full-time and going to school part-time. We were able to find excellent child care providers that were flexible with our changing schedules. After I graduated I planned to stay at home for a year and than begin teaching. However, I was very surprised at how much I liked being a SAHM and we decided to have another baby. When the kids were 6, 4, and 1 we moved back to the town I grew up in. A couple years after that, my cousin got pregnant at 17 and wanted to finish her senior year of high school. I told her that if she had a way to get the baby to my house I would watch her while she went to school. That began an unexpected career in child care. I am now 48 years old, my husband I will celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary in June and we have 4 children, ages 27, 25, 22, and 9 (a little surprise baby conceived when I had been taking birth control pills for 11 years - talk about your future not turning out the way you planned!!). I never did go on to teach in a public school setting, but I have been a highly sought after child care provider in my home for 20 years. I love my job and look forward to seeing all my little ones each day. The thing about plans is that life happens along the way and most people's future is very different than their plans. Don't be scared. You have the support of your boyfriend so have your baby, go to school if it works out, but know that if it doesn't happen, something else will come along.
2007-03-07 07:16:03
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answered by sevenofus 7
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I got pregnant at 18 with my partner who at the time I had been with for a year and a half.
We made the decision to keep the baby and settle down so we got a house and he got a steady job, and I devoted my life to being the best mum ever.
We have enjoyed having our daughter so much that we decided to have another one and now I am 6 months pregnant with my second.
My plans for the next few years are to get a degree with the open university and when they both start school I will get a job that I really enjoy and move to a bigger place.
I do not see having a family young in a negative way at all, in some ways it works out better for me because I can enjoy raising toddlers first and then go on to have my career when they are in school, rather than starting a career and then facing the decision of whetehr to give up or put my kids in daycare and miss them growing up.
2007-03-07 06:48:03
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answered by cigaro19 5
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i got pregnant at 19. When my mom found out she threw me out. i was in college at the time. I had to get on public assistance and money was very tight. I'm 21 now. Me and my husband are working. We have our own apartment and I'm graduating in May. We are able to give our son what he needs and it feels great. I guess i never felt bad about our situation because we were still getting by even though we didn't have much. I never regretted having my son. I am a very strong person and the challenges I've faced have only made me stronger. Don't be discouraged by what people say. Having a baby is a beautiful thing. Good luck!
2007-03-07 07:10:59
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answered by Chrissilicious 2
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I was pregnant w/my first at 15, had him at 16. I got married to my husband (different man) at 18, had my second child at 19, third at 21 and fourth at 23. I got my GED and feel like I have an incredibly successful life. I have a wonderful family. I have a great husband. I have great kids, who really are my life. I am EXTREMELY happy.
I do regret the fact that I ever put myself in the position I did but without it, I wouldn't be me. I am very strongly pro-life and pro-abstinence before marriage as I've known the heartache and hard times that having sex before marriage can cause but that doesn't mean I don't love my oldest child any less or would want to be w/o him for the world.
I really hope the best for you and I hope that your boyfriend sticks around but you have to know, it may not happen. If so, you CAN still make it. I have a GREAT husband who isn't my son's birth father but he is his dad. My son's adoption was final about 3 years ago.
2007-03-07 06:53:58
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answered by Trouble's Mama 5
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I was 20 and in college. I had to move home and put school on hold for a bit until my son was about 6 months old. But I went back and finished. I do not reget keeping my son. He was always a priority, but things can get rather difficult. Especially when you are carrying a full load, working and staying up late to get homework done. I was lucky that I had such great supportive parents. I never would have gotten through without them.
I am now 30, married and expecting baby #3. You can definitely be succuessful if that is what you want. Do not EVER blame a child for not being able to finish school or get ahead in life. You determine your success. They are just along for the ride. Good luck to you. Anything is possible when you put your mind to it.
2007-03-07 06:52:13
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answered by Mom of 3 2
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