My husband masturbates and lies about it.?

Question

I have found many signs that my husband masturbates frequently. When I confront him about it he denies it at first, then admits it, then says he won't do anymore. This has happened a few times. Then I caught him. Again, he said he wouldn't do it again. I don't see signs around the house, but now I see secretations in his boxers. He says that's normal. We have sex about twice a week. I don't understand why he does this and why he lies to me about it. It really bothers me and I can't quit thinking about it. Is this totally normal and I'm just overthinking things, or should I have a reason for concern?

Answer 1

Well him lying about it isnt that big of deal to me, because it maybe imbarassing to him, so he wont fess up to it immediately. Some things like that are meant to be too personal for some people. Even though you have sex with him, he may just feel in the mood to masturbate, it is quite normal. He has done it for years before you and it just is something he has come adjusted to. Dont worry too much about it. And try not to confront him about it or investigate to find out if he did. It is something that if he wants to talk about, then he would. I have found clues to my husband doing it, and I will tease him about it, but he knows it is just me playing around, I dont yell at him about it, because it is a normal thing to do. And if you feel he is doing it too much, then try and please him more often if it bothers you he does it so much. But no matter how often you have sex, he will still masturbate. It is just a guy thing, and in some cases a girl thing too.

Answer 2

The reason we lie sometimes we get caught and it's just like a kid with a cookie jar, even if you caught them doing it they will try to lie about it. We do this because we know it will upset the other person, this meaning in this case you. He lies to try and not make you angry at him. You two need to seriously talk about why he has this need to masturbate so much. I personally would think it isn't normal when you have a willing partner to share it with.