2007-03-07 06:39:08 · 23 answers · asked by scgraphix 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To put a finer point on this question, I didn't just start thinking this way. I have been thinking about divorce on and off for the last 5 or 6 yrs. I promise myself that I would try harder but I feel like I am doing all of the heavy lifting. I am running out reasons to stay. Right now I feel that I would rather leave and realize that I should have stayed, than to stay and realize that I should have left.
2007-03-07 06:54:19 · update #1
If counseling don't work, get that divorce because I bet it will get worse as time moves on. You will resent her if you don't already.
2007-03-07 06:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a valid reason for this or are you just bored? Marriage requires a lot of work to keep it interesting. You only get out of it what you put into it. Start treating your wife really special, leave notes around the house or in her jacket or car that she will find. Say things like "thinking of you" or even just "hugs and kisses". Give her a hot oil back massage one night. Make dinner or take her out another night. Pretty soon she should start treating you as good as you are treating her. Also think about what first got you together. If it is still there, then work at it. Go to a good therapist/counselor if you can't figure out what is wrong by yourself. The two of you could join a club (volleyball is a lot of fun, by local book stores have reading clubs, libraries have reading clubs, volunteer at the local animal shelter or hospital together - any activity together should bring you closer). Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-07 14:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want a divorce? Are you unhappy? Was your spouse unfaithful? Not in love anymore? or has your mind wandered off and thought wouldn't it be nice to be single again so I can go out with ________ and ________. Or do this with my friends or that.
You made a commitment, a vow to be with your spouse til death do you part. If you are thinking of a divorce all day long then you obvioulsy aren't thinking of ways to fix your marriage.
Start dedicating more time on that and see if divorce isn't the answer after all.
2007-03-07 14:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by 2shay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Brudda? That ain't for us to say. But I will tell you this TRUE STORY!! My Brother, had been Married for about 15 Years? ans they went through a tough time. (Money, I think) But, This Month? They're celebrating number 32. And that's with 3 other Years of shackin' together, too. It's not gonna be an easy diecison. But it also may not be the answer. Good Luck.
2007-03-07 14:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either get counseling to figure out why you have these thoughts, or get a divorce. Not acting and leaving things in the air make it even harder,adds stress.
2007-03-07 14:45:44 · answer #5 · answered by jenniferjwhite1979 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How bad is your marriage? What has your spouse done to hurt you? Do you want to save your marriage or not? If it is worth saving then you need to start thinking about why you two were married in the first place. Think about the happy times and try to relive them. Start going out on dates again. Spend time together. Find reasons to be together and to be intimate. Marriage is work but it is well worth it.
2007-03-07 14:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ~15 yrs for me. Glad to see I'm not the only one out there who thinks this way. Prayed my heart out and did all of the "Christian" rituals to get answers, indv. counseling (he didn't think we had a problem), love letters, special date nights, read old love letters from college, NOTHING. Get a divorce. If you can take it. I don't think I could because of the emotional stress, mind games and the constant "looking over your shoulder", taking notes, etc. It won't be pretty...
2007-03-07 14:55:28 · answer #7 · answered by Jodi S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
13 yrs. is a long time. It depends on why you want the divorce. I would work on your marriage instead of thinking about divorce.
2007-03-07 14:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by MISTY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep thinking:-)) make a list of the things that are positive and negative.... try to remember why you married that person in the first place.... think about your children in case you have any (they are the ones that suffer most) think about counseling and take a look at yourself HONESTLY - are YOU perfect? give yourself an ultimatum - say - 3 months and then think about divorce again. talk to a good friend.
2007-03-07 14:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by mausmiss2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends. Why are you thinking of a divorce? And, do you have children. If you have children, tough it out, they deserve having you in their lives. If your spouse has serious character issues -- alcoholic, abusive, petty, bitter -- seek counseling first, because divorce is terribly expensive. If you're just tired of being married, get counseling to figure out how to make it better. Trust me, the grass isn't greener on the other side, it's astroturf.
2007-03-07 14:43:06 · answer #10 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
after staying wid her 4 13 yrs ,y u need a divorce suddenly?
Its not clear!but i will advice u to give a second thought on d matter.Divorce is not a joke.
2007-03-07 14:44:31 · answer #11 · answered by sherry 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋