If your husband cheated on you, but repented.....?

Question

would you forgive him? If he absolutely and totally does everything to make up for what he did, what would you do?

Answer 1

Wow How ironic This happened to me. he repented as well. It was hard at the beginning to forget it. I forgave him right away b/c he told me what he had done. But i just could NOT stop thinking about it. I told him It was going to take some time for me to forget it, and that it comes up alot, from the back of my head. and weeks went buy then months and I haven't thought about for a few weeks except now that I have read this.
He told me on 11/20/06 I thought it would take longer but it hasn't I Truly love him. Don't bring it up in conversations, when you are arguing that is the worst thing you could do. You now he did it he New he did it no one else has to now this is your personal business. Good luck to you and stay strong!!

Answer 2

This is what i believe. If your husband really loved you(or anyone) then they wouldnt cheat to begin with. Usually people cheat because they are lacking something in the relationship, doesnt have to be intamincy. I dont believe that if i was in that position that i would forgive. I look at it this way, if they dont want you and want to cheat then they need to leave. because there was a reason for it. I have told my spouse that if he didnt want to be with me, then he needed to just leave before it got to that point. He never has and he has told me that he never will. i believe him only because i love him, and we are the best of friends. So to kindly answer, no i wouldnt.

Answer 3

Mine did, and repented and has lived the life of a saint since then. I forgave and we are working on the marriage. I commend you for trying to work it out and not running for the nearest divorce atty. Marriages can survive infidelity. It takes alot of hard work on both parts, but it can be done. I wish you both luck and strength to get through this difficult time, and many more years of a faithful loving marriage.

Answer 4

It depends are a variety of things.
I would forgive him, if he is sincere with his apology and promises to never do that again.

Try to also figure out, what were his reasons behind doing what he did.

Answer 5

I would only forgive him if:
A. I thought I really could. Or do I really think I would end up throwing it in his face when we fought, etc.
B. He used protection. If he risked an STD, I could not forgive him.
C. I was sure it would never happen again
D. If my life is really better with him, versus without him.

Answer 6

a real woman will forgive the person ,but it doesn't mean that everyday of his life you will remind him of what he did, because if you will used the cheating against him when your fighting then it means you have not forgiven him.

give him a second chance if you find in your heart to forgive him.

Answer 7

I tried but then found him into other things, he says he is sorry but time after time I have been showed he is a lying dog, Ill never again trust him... The marriage is OVER

Answer 8

Well, I would be kicking him to the curb!! The bad thing about cheating is that if you THINK you can get away with it you TRY to and when you KNOW you can get away with it you DO it again!!

Answer 9

since you've only been married for 4 months, I'd kick his *** to the curb...you are supposed to be on your "honeymoon stage" still.....what will happen in 5 years when it "get's old"?

Answer 10

Talk to him about going to counseling, if he's willing then he probably is trying, if he say no or hesitates, find a atty.