Been married 10 years, hubby has no sex drive, I was told to find a b/f.What would you do and or say?

Question

Took him to the MD, Doc said no medical reason for this, maybe a psych eval, hubby refused.

Makes one feel a bit rejected, I'd say!! And not looking to cheat, but I'm not dead yet either!!!

Answer 1

First, talk to him and ask him why? Maybe he has a g/f...maybe he's just tired, who knows! You can't really figure out what to do until you ask him what's going on. Then go from there! If he's too tired, tell him to see a doctor. If he has a g/f, kick his *** out! If he's just bored, spice things up. Hope this helps! Good Luck

Answer 2

You have got two options. Either make him understand what your feeling is or get someone else.

But you need to decide that. Should think of what'll be consequences. And you should be ready to face that. There's nothing wrong in finding someone else. Bu t you shud be ready to accept that. May be your mind.. heart is still holding you..

Speak with u'r hubby.. get him to a councelling.. if it's not workin out. then go for the second option. You are a human. You too have feelings. It's not a sin !

Good luck friend !

Answer 3

I'd try another doctor to confirm there is no medical reason. If there isn't and he still refuses to seek a mental evaluation, then he is either finding his emotional outlet elsewhere and doesn't really love you, or he really does have a mental problem and doesn't care about you. Either way, he should have more ambition to find out why if he's interested in pleasing you as a concerned and loving husband. I would give him an ultimatum, we fix this or I leave and find someone who cares how I feel.

Answer 4

I was in a marriage and my husband had no sex drive. He also told me that if I wanted sex to get a b/f. He said that was the best he could do for me. In the end I ended up leaving him. But I didn't get a b/f, not til after I left him and we got a divorce. Good Luck!

Answer 5

I say that if you're going to cheat at least have the respect to leave your husband. Would you like it if you had no sex drive and he cheated on you? I'm sorry if I sound harsh but I've been cheated on and done the cheating. Learned some really hard lesson's.

Answer 6

That would depend on your morals, if you have an open relationship, and both are open minded, find a b/f or a g/f. If you ask me I could never cheat I would simply go to an adult book store and find things to take into my own hands. I love my man too much to cheat. But if it is that bad, DIVORCE is another option. GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

Are you sure he isn't getting it somewhere else? And depending on your stance as far as marriage goes...if those needs aren't getting met, you have a couple options. Leave your husband because you can't bare being with another man while you're married, or Have pre-approved affairs to satisfy your sexual desires. Totally your call. Atleast you could say "you told me to."

Answer 8

If you find a boyfriend whos to say he wont find himself a girlfriend?? Just agree to having sex once a week to save your marriage and all the other days watch yourself a good porn and buy a magic silver bullet....it works wonders :)

Answer 9

No boy friends No cheating ask him to go with you to
consoling and work things out you both made a vow together ,
you can use the one ladies advise about taking care of our self .
he must be nuts to turn away loving .

Answer 10

attempt your best to get out those techniques that hang-out you and additionally, stand up to the temptation of telling your hubby approximately your previous. it may not do any good to you. quite be pleased with your husband and marriage existence - stay interior the present. each and every of the best !