2007-03-07 06:25:25 · 43 answers · asked by Mercy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO! If the trust is gone, so is the relationship!!
2007-03-07 06:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mercy hun why have you stayed in this relationship for there to be several? Once can be forgiven and the relationshiped saved twice is stupidity on his part and he does not want to be only with you. He has broken you down so far that you seriously believe that you are not worthy of something better, but you are wrong you are worth it. You are obviously alot stronger then you are giving yourself credit for, for trying to make the marriage work and trying to forgive him. You can not make him love you and respect you it does not work that way I know I spent yrs trying and crying. I finally realized I would rather be alone and not have to worry about him emotionaly hurting me anymore then be in a marriage and alone. Take back the power you have given him and stop crying and believe you are worth better then this.
2007-03-07 06:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by Rigssy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if you don't have trust in a relationship there is no point. Trust is key. Because if you don't divorce him now he will eventually just go off with one of those girls. Step up, divorce him and get your self an atorney just incase. Don't let him treat you like an object to use once he's nboard with the other girls. And don't listen to him if he says "he loves you," because if he really loved you that much he wouldn't be looking for other women. Good luck!!
2007-03-07 06:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by babigurl34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! You're not wrong for wanting it... even the Bible says it's okay to get a divorce when your spouse commits adultery.
Your question makes me wonder if getting a divorce is right for you right now, though. I could be wrong, but it sounds as if you need to talk to him about it or maybe try counseling before you'd feel okay about ending your marriage.
I'm sorry you're going through this painful time...
2007-03-07 06:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by bumsteadowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a word: NO. He may have "issues" of some sort but in MOST cases, once a cheater always a cheater. Good luck. If the roles were reversed: would he divorce you? I'm not a relgious person but I still think adultery is wrong.
2007-03-07 06:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even asking this question???? How many times do YOU think he gets to cheat before it is justified? Is there more to this than you are telling us? Do you withhold sex from him? Have you cheated on him yourself? Are you from another country where cheating ONCE is not a justification for divorce?
2007-03-07 06:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong for wanting a divorce--you're wrong for staying with him for so long. I'm sure you loved him and you thought he would change but look where it has gone. Don't pretend anymore--get your divorce and get yourself the better life you deserve.
2007-03-07 06:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Kitty knows it all 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you wrong for staying after the first?
Go get a good lawyer.
Go find a good finance consultant.
Go enroll in Tharp for abused women.
Enjoy life when all of the above has been completed
2007-03-07 06:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by wiggliy66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want a divorce? Or do you wnat to analyse the reason for his behavior? Could it be that he is looking for something outside your marraige that he isnt getting in the marraige. What ever he may be looking for, sex, love or companionship, once you pinpoint it you may be able to save your marraige if you really want to. Remember the Bible also talks about forgiving seventy times seven.
2007-03-07 06:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by Andyml 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not being religious....but since he commited adultry, you are safe. Since he commited it, you are free to get a divorce as long as the papers are there.
Matthew 5:31
Marriage Is Sacred and Binding
31 “Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality[e] causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.
2007-03-07 06:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong. You had already given him several chances and he is still cheating on you. Dump him as soon as possible. You deserve a better person than him.
Good luck!!
2007-03-07 21:13:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋