We've been best friends for 4 years and in the past she'd been really selfish and hurt me so I told her we shouldn't spend so much time together.A month later she was a totally different person, she begged me to forgive her and promised she would never hurt me again. I really loved her and I was always there for her, I considered her family and I tried to be protective cos she's a risky person(alcohol, drugs etc).A week ago I broke with my boyfriend and I really needed someone to talk cos I was really depressed but she said she didn't have time and that she'd promised some new friends she met she'd go for dinner with them...I felt betrayed...and the next day I told her how I felt and that I don't want to be friends with her anymore...so here I am, alone, having to deal with the loss of the two most important persons in my life...and with noone to talk to...I know lots of people but I have no other close friends....what should I do??I think I'm going insane...please help me...
2007-03-07 06:06:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are not going insane, you just feel betrayed and hurt on so many levels. Who could blame you, you gave her a second chance and then she turns her back on you for some new friends that probably won't last a month. I say just move on you do not need nobody in your life that engages in risky behavior, turns their back on you, and most of all makes you feel like crap.
I been in the same situation. Once I got over it and focused on making my life into what I know it is supposed to be I felt like a new improved person. That was 5 years ago. My best advice is for you to move on and if she comes running back (which she will) then let her know you cannot no longer keep being her fool.
2007-03-07 06:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by Blessed and Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel because I kind of went through what you are going through right now. I am not sure if I am right and I don't want to say anything bad but, I don't think your friend was a real best friend. She had been selfish, hurtful, and she even betrayed you - who took her in when she needed your help. I know this is going to be really hard but what I did was that I faced the reality. She is not your friend anymore and you have to remember that she will never be. I am really sorry to tell you this but maybe she didn't even consider you as a best friend... You need to just relax and forget about the bad things. I know it is very difficult but do whatever to forget or not think about your friend. Find something that you can do to relax and calm yourself. You can take some yoga classes which I did.
Well, that's all I can tell you from my experience. I hope you feel better soon...
2007-03-07 14:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by MangoJuice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it may be, you need to get over the loss of your friend and realize that it is a blessing in disguise. I was in your position before and it sucks. I had to "break up" with my best friend because she was a selfish person that always had a lot of drama. She always needed time for her but never had time for anyone else. If you keep putting energy into your friendship, she will drag you down and it will drain you. It's hard, but in the end its healthier for you to not have her around and you won't have the trouble of wondering when she'll be there for you. Hang in there!!
2007-03-07 14:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't going insane; I promise =) You've just had two hard blows at once. First thing, forget about her. She's only friends with you when it's convenient for her and that's a hard lesson to learn for anyone. Breaking up with a bf isn't pleasant either. I wouldn't stay in touch with either one. Go and do things that make YOU happy and hang out with other friends/family! Keep your options open. =) If she tries to come back and apologize, you can either ignore her (I would) or let her know her friendship isn't welcome anymore and tell her why. She can either get over it or not.
2007-03-07 14:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about it, shes not worth it, and yu aren't going insane. Forget about her, and try to move on, in the end it will be for the best..... I promise. Try to get out and make new friends, it might help, but then again it might not, so do what ever you think feels right. As someone once told me " you can't go wrong when you listen to your heart"........ good luck
2007-03-07 14:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by "B" 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would contact her and apologize for what you said. I know you were angry at the time but you shouldn't have said that you don't want to be friends with her anymore if that isn't true. Sorry things are not going well for you right now but they will get better. Good Luck!
2007-03-07 14:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not going insane... she's the one that has lost out on YOU. You sound like a very caring person.... one that should find friends who treat you the same as you treat them.
2007-03-07 14:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by kebbs32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl 4 get bout her if she is doing that to u and that wasn't the only time she turned her back on u than its time to move on..get a new best friend but really get to kno them don't hold ur feelings in and wat not..and wit the guy im sry for ur lost & ur rite if she was ur best friend she should of been there for u i kno my best friend would of been there for me..
2007-03-07 14:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by crazysmith187 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her and see if she will talk with you
2007-03-07 14:10:12 · answer #9 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋