Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get my boyfriend to have sex with me more often. He's never in the mood and I always initiate any sex that we have. I know that he is busy but he's too tired in the morning; too tired at night; doesn't want to when he comes home from work. Most people have sex at these times. Sex has been reduced to once per week, Saturday afternoons...and he's gone a lot on the weekends. FYI - he's not cheating on me. He is totally in love. He doesn't have a physiological problem. He's just never in the mood. HELP.
2007-03-07 06:06:06 · 12 answers · asked by Garon A 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Use your hand to get yourself off, kiss and cuddle him. Let him know that this is what you're doing and why.
If he's deflated from work or stressed out by it, it will affect his libido. Make his life as comfortable for him as you can - you're his partner. When you're next able suggest you take a holiday together - even just a quiet weekend away (to recharge not discharge). Don't let the lack of sex ruin your relationship. It may very well pick up, once his worklife has settled.
2007-03-07 06:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if nothing new is going on (new job, moved, family problems) then you might consider asking him to get a check up with his doctor.
We all go through periods where there is less sex in the relationship so this could just be one of those times.
2007-03-07 14:16:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take this problem seriousluy, before it kills your relationship.
First off-- the bedroom is for sex, sleep, and maybe clothes only. Get TV, phones, Books, Dogs, etc. all out of there.
Talk to him in language of "saving our relationship" not "Having more sex". Because this is the kind of issue that kills things.
2007-03-07 14:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Masturbate more and stop asking him for sex. Don't create an emotional problem where there's a physical problem. Let him decide when to initiate the next escapade.
2007-03-07 14:16:55 · answer #4 · answered by Tink 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe the two of you may need to take abreak from having sex,
and try to work to see if the two of you are headed in the same dir
ection. sound to me like one or both of you are burned out, tired,
disinterested, or maybe you are asking for more than he wants to
deliver?
2007-03-07 14:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my marriage! You need to talk with him. No accusations, no complaining, just talk about your frustration, what you are thinking, and try to describe these things in a very positive, but honest, way. Communication is key to understanding and intimacy, in the long run, my friend.
2007-03-07 14:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by goldandsilver 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps the romance has gone out of your relationship.
It appears he has a new love - his work.
The 2 of you need to sit down and really discuss where you are headed.
2007-03-07 14:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take the problem in hand and
talk to him about your needs and his.
he could be a just a once a week guy.
2007-03-07 14:22:39 · answer #8 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Iam tristian if you wanna do sex send me you email,name,phone,wich countryandwhite or black
and maybe ill do it with ya
2007-03-07 14:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
spice it up. role play!!! give it to him with he wants him or ask him y aren't you into me as much as I'm into to you.
2007-03-07 14:21:11 · answer #10 · answered by stacy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋