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this guy and i have had the best times of our lives ..we have spent hours literally doingnothing ... and still laughing smiling ... talking,. we are like each other compliment each other ... but we are married respectively( he just got married) . i thought he is my soulmate .. and i believed it WAS OK if i loved him... i dunno how/what to feel???? yes my marriage WAS /is not the greatest one ... but ... how do i help myself ?? he is gonna become a dad and im freaked out ...im a mum ..but what the hell am i going thru ???
SORRY STUPID QUERY!!

2007-03-07 06:05:31 · 5 answers · asked by barley 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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I have also been in this same situation, only it went further. I was fortunate though because my husband forgave me when I finally told him. You may not want to hear this now because it feels so good to be be with this other person, but end it while you have the chance to reverse any damage that may have already occured. If you don't want to be in your marriage, do your spouse a favor and end it, don't humilate and embarrase him by cheating. It's been 3 years for me, and my husband still lives with what I did everyday. It hurts me to see that I put such a rut in our marraige that will always be there. Yes, we have grown stronger from it, but it's sad that it took me to find someone else to make my own marriage stronger. A marriage is something that always needs to be worked on, every single day. A marriage is not easy. The good times you have with this other person would not always be like that if you were married to him. Keep perspective!

2007-03-07 06:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I have been exactly where you are and it is very difficult. You are cheating on your spouse however you are looking at it you are cheating!! Both of you are emotionaly having an affair and if you can live with yourself knowing that there is a chance that the new wife will find out and destroy their marriage or if your husband will find out and destroy your own then stay with it. In my case when I met him we were both not wanting our marriage to work any more and had basicaly divorced our spouses before the actual divorce. We had talked for over a yr and then we both started the divorce proceedings and then we met each other......but unless this is what you are looking for and he also then step out of it because now there is a possibilty you and he will hurt everyone including this new baby that will come and for what price?

2007-03-07 06:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by Rigssy 2 · 0 0

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2016-12-05 09:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I'd say keep up what your doing. your both in a bad situation though since your both married have/going to have kids. do you love your husband? if no get a divorse, if so, stay with him. were you guys like that before he got married? if you were and he still got married then he probably just thinks of you as a good friend. you need to just be there for him and see where that takes you two.

2007-03-07 06:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by taralynXXX 2 · 0 0

if you are meant to be together you will be. things will happen in your respective lives that will throw you two together, but don't ruin your marriage because of this. let time take its course.

2007-03-07 06:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0 0

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