My daughter is 17 and my son is 21. Some people are telling me that my daughter is too young to leave at home for a couple of days. Im only gone for maybe 48 hours at a time. Its not like I go all the time. Maybe two or three times a month. Both kids work and have ways to and from work. But my son sometimes stays over at his girlfriends house overnight leaving my daughter here by herself. I feel guilty doing this. Is it wrong?
2007-03-07 06:03:55 · 12 answers · asked by CROSS-EYED PENGUIN 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It depends on how mature your daughter is. Your son is old enough to be on his own and she is the only one that really needs looked after. What I suggest is, IF she is mature enough, let her stay. My oldest is 16 and we went out of town for the weekend and he stayed at home for the first time by himself. He called twice a day to check in and we let family and neighbors know that he would be there alone and to keep an eye on him and the house. He did a good job! He even cleaned his room since he was bored!
2007-03-07 06:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by okie_butterfly 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your 17 year old daughter is trust worthy, then I don't see the problem, she has a job, your only gone 48 hours at a time, she can reach you by phone. My only concern would be that her brother should stay with her, that wouldn't be asking to much. Or she could spend the night with a girl friend. I would just worry about someone finding out that she is at home alone. Just tell people that they will live alot longer if they keep their noses out of other peoples business!!!
2007-03-07 14:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as you trust your daughter and son. You obviously know what's going on with them and know that they have what they need.
I would suggest actually talking to your kids though. Don't let anyone on here or even your friends judge your actions. As long as you're ok with things and your kids are ok with it, then I don't see any problem. But talk to them and see how they are feeling about the situation. Your children are old enough to work and have responsibilities, so leaving them alone for a couple of days a month is nothing.
2007-03-07 14:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by nc_strawberry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, 17 is an age where they are almost an adult and can take care of themselves. Don't feel bad I have a friend who's daughter is 14 and she leaves her home alone (a few hours). It began when she was 12. Has your daughter mentioned anything to you to make you feel this way? As long as she is responsible I don't see anything wrong with it.
2007-03-07 14:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by inquisitor1125 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quite frankly you should not feel guilty. Your daughter is old enough to watch herself and your son been grown enough. I think you need to loosen up. If you feel that concerned about your daughterbeing home by herself then tell your son to stay home that night or have her go to one of her friends house that you trust. I am sure your children is capable of being mature responsible adults. Chill out.
2007-03-07 14:10:02 · answer #5 · answered by Blessed and Happy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your daughter about all of this. I raised 3 daughters and I remember that their senior year in high school was the best for us as a mother daughter team. There were parties, homecomings, proms and banquets to attend and we had to shop for every one of them. In a year or so your daughter will be gone and it will just be you and your hubby. I would talk to the daughter and ask if she wants you home for all of these things or not. I wouldn't have missed it for the world. I loved every minute of it and so did they.
You are not wrong to go with your husband but be there for your daughter too.
2007-03-07 14:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question: If during the time you were gone on one of these truck runs, someone watched your house, knew you were gone and she was alone, broke in and raped and murdered her-would you feel guilty?
If you answered yes then you should not leave her home alone for that length of time. This goes beyond just being able to care for ones self. 17 is still a minor and I would wager to say that under the law you are in the wrong for leaving her alone for 48 hours at a time and there is a reason for that!
2007-03-07 14:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by Kay 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your children are no longer kids and they should be able to to survive for a few hours on their own, espically your son who is now a grown man.
2007-03-07 14:13:16 · answer #8 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a problem. At that age, they are quite capable of looking after themselves.
2007-03-07 14:06:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
17 is definitally old enough to stay home alone... and definitally old enough to throw some wicked parties.... her brother is definitally old enough to buy alcohol too.
2007-03-07 14:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by kebbs32 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋