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Question

I need some help. I am a 16 year old girl, i have just found that i am a lesbian. I was raised Catholic, so to most of my family, this is a big offense. I cant help feelin that i dissapointed them and that they deny me being part of the family, my mom and stepdad are ok with it. Is what im feelin wrong? Should i deny me being a lesbian because of what my family think? Can any of u give me some advise? Im completely lost here...

Answer 1

No you shouldn't deny yourself from what you are. It will only cause pain later in life. I sympathize because I'm going through the same thing only if I do come out to my parents I know exactly how I would react. I would be kicked out of my home with nothing but my girlfriend to break my fall. I understand. I really do. But that doesn't you should lie to yourself. It's completely okay to feel what your feeling. Men and women have felt it for centuries all over the world even if the world denies it. I hope things go smoothly! GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 2

I'm 18 and was also raised a Catholic. I am also a lesbian so I understand what you're going through. But through my "journey" to understand myself and my life and the people in it, I've found that you can't deny who you really are. So if you really are a lesbian, than no religion is going to be able to change that, and you should just accept it. That's what I've learned to do, and I'm a lot happier because of it. As for your family...in my situation I'm not ready to tell my family yet (everybody else knows though) because I know that it will come as a huge disappointment. I plan to wait until I'm a little bit older (at least until I'm out of college, if my mom knew I was gay, she probably wouldn't put me through school), and then let them know. All you can do is hope for the best, the rest is out of your hands. But you shouldn't have to change who you are to be accepted by your family. And they shouldn't want you to, because it's not fair to you.

Family should love you for who you are, no matter what.
Unfortunately it doesn't always work out that way.

I wish good luck in your journey through life.

Answer 3

wow 16 is so young and no i am not saying you have to be a certain age to understand who you are but when dealing with a life changing decision like being a lesbian and telling your family lets give yourself a little time to be 100% sure of how you are feeling. never deny who you are that's not what i am saying but at least give yourself enough time to figure it out.having feelings for another girl you know or being confused about how you feel about boys and deciding this is it i am gay and come screaming out of the closet is 2 very different things

Answer 4

Wow..16.
First off. lemme just say, don't ever deny yourself of being who you are and what you feel. When you start doing this, you start denying who you are and what you want.
First of all, family is forever, and family is family. Its a big offence, or may be to them, but they will get over it.
You have to learn to accept that even if they don't accept of you, you need to be willing to take that responce and prepare yourself for the worst.
Hang in there. Be strong and do what you can. You might have to deny it just for the sake of staying there, but go out and have fun reguardless. Thats what I did?

Answer 5

If your mom and step-dad are okay with it, that's a definite plus. What you're feeling isn't wrong at all. It's completely normal, in fact. You should just be completely sure that you are truly a lesbian before coming out to anyone who may think badly of it. You wouldn't want them to freak out only to realize a few weeks later that you were wrong. (I'm not saying you are, i'm just saying it's a possibility.)
Good luck.

Answer 6

while it is true about what most ppl say here to 'not deny who you really are'
we must not forget that your life does not revolve around yourself only. i am not against les/gay. i am asian and while i am open to les/gay (heck i suspect im bi), i also understand that some ppl are too deeply rooted in the olden mindset and theres nothing we can help to change it unless you want a big earthquake in each other's relationships. im not saying thats completely right tho.. each of us have our own opinions and nobody is completely right or wrong. but lets not forget your parents will care and love you no matter what.. and we should do the same for our parents too

as to your problem, i guess it really depends on your situation..
you already said your mom and dad are ok.. so why worry? if you think they are giving you negative vibes, talk to them about it.. let them understand your decision, and you must understand their thoughts.. afterall this is not something one can accept overnight, they need time to understand you too

if they are unable to see you through, then you will hav to find a balance.. it may sound bad that you have to hide your girlfriend from your parents.. but like what i mentioned in my first paragraph.. your family cares for you no matter what so somwhere inbetween you need to remember about that too

Answer 7

Do you want to spend your entire life, and that will be a good many years, doing, acting, thinking, what some one else wants. Be yourself. You will live a longer happier life. If your family dis-owns you and you run off killing yourself because of it, chances are you would end up killing yourself because you were constantly living a lie. Gays and lesbians have a high suicide rate for those very reasons. Be yourself. Don't shove it down anyone elses throat and do not allow some one to shove anything down your throat. Take care.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Cathoic has nothing to do here
THEY have to justify the priest's poking the boys first
You mom is ok,,, problem solved,, NO one else really matters.
Step dad too,, end of story.

Answer 10

never deny what you want. just becuase other people think that what your doing is not right shouldnt stop you. Why do they think they're so right....... they dont. Thats exactly why they dont like it. they dont understand it, so automatically they think it must be wrong....



it also doesnt help that people misinterpurt the bible