Married and confused Pt. 2?

Question

I have to make my self clear. I have been married for 5 years I love my wife;however I have had only e-mail contact with my ex-fiancee whom I've known for 12 yrs. Is this cheating?

Answer 1

does your wife knows about it. if your hiding it from your wife I'll say your lying to her and it's not good.

you should tell your wife about the email and tell her it was just random and that you won't do it anymore.

Answer 2

If you are asking the question then you know you are doing something wrong. What all have you been writing. You are on the road to big trouble. Turn around while you have the biggest accident in your life. If you can not share these emails with your wife then you are cheating. You should never say or do anything that you would be afraid to have your spouse hear or see . If you can do that then you are not cheating. But why not write the same things to your wife and regindle your love her. Instead of endangering your marriage for someone else. And think about who is she cheating on writing you emails. Don't ruin two families.

Answer 3

My first question is are you hiding it from your current wife? If you are then you are not being honest. No matter the length of knowing your ex why are you still in communication with her...ex is stated ex for a reason. Now if you and your wife have a wonderful relationship and you was cpmpletly honest with her then you would not be here asking our opinion. I feel that you are not being totaly honest with yourself and you are keeping that door open just incase......not that anything will ever come of it but why can you not shut the door and leave it alone? The fact is you more then likely have not told your wife of you keeping in contact with your ex because you know it will hurt her and cause problems. If that is the case why would you do something that you know will hurt your wife and your marriage for your own gratification of knowing how your ex is? When you and her broke up even if it was on good terms the point still remains you broke up.........you need to cut that string with the ex because sooner or later your wife will find out and even though she might know nothing is there as in feeling wise she will be more upset with you for the mistrusting part of you hiding it from her.

Answer 4

Yes, it is cheating. Emotional cheating is as devastating or more so than physical cheating.
If you are addicted to the infatuation and the fantasy of the "what if", this will destroy your marriage, Stop inmediatly before you feel tempted to act on those impulses.
You
Have to have your heart and affection in the right place, and that is with your wife. As long as you continue having an emotional affair with this person, you will see your marriage crumble. It's very easy to be wonderful on an email is a different thing to be wonderful in person.

Stop and don;t your wife any longer. Your wife doesn't deserve your emotional abandoment and your cheating.

Good luck

Answer 5

no i dont consider it cheating , but unless there is kids involved. y u still talking to her rather email r letters must be something still there for x. would u feel the same if it was her talking to a ex of 12 yrs talk to wife about it , is the ex married r in a relationship.

Answer 6

Are you trying to ask if it's appropriate or not for you to have contact with a former love interest? Ask your wife. This will be your answer.

I still talk to my former spouse whom I got divorced from 6 years ago. My husband knows about it, and he doesn't have a problem with it. It would have been inappropriate for me to speak to an ex on the regular basis behind my husband's back - it could hardly be called "cheating", but it would be disrespectful to my spouse. That's just the way I see it.

Answer 7

If it's just friendly talk, than no i wouldn't think so.
If you are thinking about this person all the time and wanting to email back and forth. Than i would be a little worried, that could really start something El's and than you might be into cheating.
Just be careful and don't hide anything from your wife and you will be fine.
Good luck

Answer 8

Yes it is. Does your wife know? If she doesn't, it is cheating. you need to end this relationship with your ex and tell her you have moved on and to make your new relationship work you too to cut ties. If you don't you may loose your new wife. What are you getting out of talking to your ex anyway? If there is something still there, you need to rethink your new marriage and see what you and your ex still have in common. How would YOU feel if you knew your wife was talking an ex behind YOUR back?

Answer 9

1) Depends on what is the context
2) Does your wife know and would she like the idea?
3) Would you want your wife talking to her ex (if she had one) behind your back?
4) It is a form of cheating (at least the start of it) Especially if you are hiding it from your wife?

Personally I say stop it. You need to concentrate on your wife. Ex's are not suppose to be in the picture. Not unless there is a child invovled and it is then regarding ONLY the child.

Answer 10

If you are hiding things like this from your wife then you don't love her. That women is your EX for a reason. If you don't want problems in your current marriage you need to stop the internet ties with your ex. YES TALKING CAN BE CHEATING

Answer 11

It depends on what you are e-mailing...You feel guilty for some reason and it could be your feelings for your ex- coming into play. Remember emotions and committment are very thin lines to cross you must realize that if tables were turned and your wife was e-mailing her ex- what would your reaction be ... It all depends on the type of communication going on ...Innocent or not so innocent...