It been 3 years since he cheated and we are gonna try again. Can I trust him?

Question

I have been off and on for 5 years with this guy. Three years ago I told him I was pregnant and he told he that his other girlfriend (of 5 years) would be mad if she found out so it was over!! The fact that he had another another girlfriend came as a shock to me. I decided that I was not ready at that time to raise a child by myself so I chose adoption. Lately he has been calling me again and has been very apologetic for things in the past. He is saying that he has met alot of women and has never met another like me and now I am the one he wants to spend his life with. I still love him for some reason I just dont know if I can trust him or if his story is the same bull every guy says. Do guys marry just any women when they start to think that they are getting old and wont ever get married?

Answer 1

There is a whole lot wrong with this scenario, but lets deal with the facts.

1. He cheated on you the entire five years with his "REAL" girlfriend.

2. He ran out on you while you were pregnant.

3. He didn't try to prevent the adoption process.

4. He just randomly called you after three years to confess his love.

5. He is a crock of sh!t

he probably was dropped by the first girlfriend, knows your personality, wants a place to stay, and is using you.

You can NOT NOT NOT trust him. Even if you think you have feelings for him, that doesn't mean you can trust him. Sexual, Emotional attractions are not trust.

Answer 2

Hmm, i like the saying, 'Once a cheater-always a cheater' Be careful. If you take him back, then he has control. He did something to you that was uncalled for and unfaithful to you and the relationship! Then when HE decides he's ready, despite your opinions or situations, he comes crawling back wanting forgiveness. Of course it is your decision...don't rush into anything. Rememeber how he made you feel and what he put you through. You have to make sure he is the real deal and NOT going to mess with you a year or 2 down the line. And also always remember, if you get involved in a serious relationship with him again, are you going to be wondering where and who is with when he's not with you? Do you want to spend your life thinking like that about someone you are supposed to love and trust? Good Luck.

Answer 3

Only you know if you can ever trust him again. You know exactly what you are getting into this time so you have to ask yourself if it is worth it. He may have changed but he may not have. Is it worth the time and effort if he cheats again and how long are you going to be mad at yourself if he does.

Think things over long and hard before you decide. You may be spending all this time on him for nothing or he may turn out to be the most wonderful man in the world. You have to decide what is best for you.

Answer 4

You only know how you really feel and you're the only one that can say if you trust him or not. But I believe people can change, they may realize how immature they were and finally come to terms with what they want and you may be that. Follow your heart, talk to him find out where he stands and what made him come to the conclusion of wanting to be with you again. But if it's been 3 years, maybe he really does love you. I definitely wouldn't jump into marriage though, start with a relationship, get to know each other again and go from there. Best of luck, I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 5

I don't know, Trust your instincts...There good.

But I do want to say that I think your an amazing woman for choosing adoption and incredibly strong.

If he cheated on her, and you, then he'll probably do it again.

You see once a guy (some guys not all) thinks he can get away with something from someone, they take advantage of them until there's just nothing left.

But something tells me your a strong woman and you'll make the right decision

Answer 6

I believe that people can change, but it rarely ever happens. Only you know if you can trust him again. Do you have the capacity to trust him? Do you think you can go into this relationship and feel secure and confident that he is trust worthy? Most likely, you will never feel that way. And it is essential to feel that way in a relationship. And in answer to your last question, yes it is possible that a guy can feel lonely and start grasping at straws for love.

Answer 7

Baby please tell me you are joking! How can you want to give someone of his status another chance. He doesn't love you. He loves that he can call you his FOOL. I seriously don't know how you would want him back after he didn't want you or the child you gave up! Is his sex that good that you don't mind being his fool. I am going to pray for your mind when I go to sleep tonight. It seems like you can't live without this looser. I felt that way 3 years ago, but prayer brought me over. I am so happy there were no children involved

Answer 8

Sure you are not like the othere women in his life, they won't take his sh.t you do. If you take him back be ready for more of the same, for he thinks that is what you want. Men don't marry because they think they are getting old, well not every man I,m sure, but maybe there are some men who do.

Answer 9

i wouldn't trust him. and being in a situation somewhat similar to yours, i wouldn't forgive him for abandoning you during your pregnancy. that shows lack of responsibility, immaturity, tons of things. and you don't know if he will do it again, but with his track record, you can take an accurate guess. i mean, you can trust him if you want, but you know where you ranked between him and the girlfriend the last time this happened, you were the one out the door. how can you be sure this won't happen again? unless you have an answer for that question, you can't begin to trust him again.

Answer 10

If he cheated once he is bound to do it again. Men like him aren't satisfied with just one women. They all ways want more. What if you get pregnant again? is he going to run out on you like the last time, I say you should move on.