My boyfriend and I are really good friends with another couple. My boyfriend and the other guy went to school together and his girlfriend and I are in the same classes in college and we hang out quite a bit. I would consider her my best friend right now. Anyways, that's who we are and this is what's happening. Every day I go over to their apartment after class, this guy calls and as soon as she calls she tells me it's her uncle but she seems really flirty when she's talking... so I know it's not her uncle. Then, she was on MSN and her ex was IM her saying "love you babe" and stuff like that. She told her now-boyfriend that she NEVER talks to him but he calls their apartment every day and she talks to him on MSN when he's not around. I told my boyfriend about it and he's pretty mad at her cause he doesn't like what she's doing to his friend. I'm not sure if I should talk to her and tell her what she's doing is wrong or just leave it alone. I don't want her boyfriend to get hurt. Help?!?
2007-03-07 05:42:14 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Her and her boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. The thing that confuses me is that IF he was ever to talk to his ex, she wouldn't talk to him for DAYS! Unless he promised to NEVER talk to her again... but she talks to all her ex's and flirts with them.. and looks like she obviously talks to them in ways she shouldn't if she says she loves her now-boyfriend. My boyfriend wants to tell her boyfriend but I asked him not to because I don't EXACTLY know what's going on and I honestly don't know what to do. The thing is, I did that before in the past and I hurt my boyfriend really badly and I regret it. I don't want her to do something she will regret that could possibly ruin her relationship now because they seem happy together and he loves her alot. I don't know what to do or if I should even do anything at all.
2007-03-07 05:45:59 · update #1
The ex has called before when her boyfriend was home and he answered and he got REALLY mad at her for still talking to him behind his back and she promised him she wouldn't talk to him any more.
2007-03-07 05:56:08 · update #2
Communication is important, for keeping a healthy relationship with your friend, it is very important not to judge her, because you wouldn't like it if she judged you. Maybe she really belongs with this other guy, talking about it with someone that will listen, and not judge her will help her to sort it out. Ultimately its her web she weaves, so don't feel responsible for her decisions, that's the way we all learn and grow in life.
2007-03-07 06:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by holdontowhatyouhave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind your business! You made the first mistake when you went to your boyfriend before you went to her. How do you think he feels now that he has to keep a secret from his best friend. How can you call her your best friend if you didn't go to her first? I am really not trying to be hard on you, but when you talk to your friend she is going to be mad because you went to your boyfriend before talking to her. I hope you start the conversation with I apologize for telling my boyfriend something that I should have discussed with you. She will be more open this away. Trust me this is coming from experience!
2007-03-07 13:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by luckycharm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you could say to her is that you are very uncomfortable with the situation and if her boyfriend ever brings it up with you around you will NOT lie. Tell her you have vibes that something may not be kosher and don't want any part of any deception. Let her make the decision as to what to do with the information you give her. It may be the incentive she needs to make a choice either way. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-07 13:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ramble, ramble ,ramvbe.... u have no idea whats up so stay out of it .... u assume NOSEY>>>> u have no idea where the place lies for each party involved neither do I .....
2007-03-07 14:33:05 · answer #4 · answered by tontometumaniszwili 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋