I mean, can you be happy in a marriage while discreetly getting your sex on the side. Can you still love your spouse and disconnect yourself from the cheating?
2007-03-07 05:41:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Question..... How do you teach the sex on the side woman to be discreet? If the other woman gets interested in you your wife will be the first one to know..... trust me... Get counseling for that disconnect issue...
2007-03-07 05:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by M B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. If you can "distance and disconnect yourself from the cheating" all it means is you are self-centered and try to justify what you are going because you have a "happy" marriage. Chances are, if you aren't happy with your sex life, she isn't either. If you want to have relations with other women, then your wife should have the opportunity to do the same.
Additionally, there is no such thing as "No Strings Attached" sex...either because one gives the other a veneral disease, the woman ends up pregnant, somebody's partner finds out about the cheating or sooner of later one of the parties is no longer satisfied with the "No Strings Attached" and wants a real relationship.
2007-03-07 05:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you need sex on the side, then there is something missing in your marriage. Sure, YOU could be happy cheating, but that's pretty unfair to your spouse, don't you think? Furthermore, if you ARE cheating, do you really love your spouse? I mean, I love my husband, THEREFORE I could never cheat on him and wouldn't even want to - and if I did cheat, I'd die from the horrible guilt and the knowledge that if he found out, he'd be sooooo hurt. See what I mean?
2007-03-07 05:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by pookiemct07 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to "disconnect yoursef from cheating". Either you are or you aren't, and I wouldn't call it a happy marriage if you're getting sex on the side. You must not love or respect your spouse if you can cheat on them.
2007-03-07 06:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by scbettyboop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe its possible to do that, and yes I am speaking from experience. I cheated on my husband once and never stopped loving him. But its still wrong and you shouldnt do that. Mine was a life learning experience, a shameful embarassing one, and I will never cheat again. Be faithful to your spouse. If the shoe were on the other foot, how would you feel? Think about it.
2007-03-07 06:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can I be happy by having some on the side... geeeez, I didn't know they'd moved it from the center!
On a more serious not-- this is the question of a self centered, immature, not able to really love, guy. Man, you make the rest of us look bad, no wonder women don't trust half of us.
2007-03-07 05:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by Wisdom??? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can love your spouse and find them lousy in bed. She may find that she loves you and hates sex. never wants it. And you want it all the time but she doesn't. So what can you do. Two options, cheat or divorce her.
Let's say she is a bit of a whack job and you think the divorce would push her over the top and she might kill herself. Well, you can't divorce her then so you cheat and get what you need.
I mean, she knows she isn't enough woman for you but she won't bring home a sub. So don't worry about it.
2007-03-07 05:47:28 · answer #7 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
What kind of sick, unevolved degenerate are you? Sex isn't a hobby, you pig. It's people like you who give the male gender this stereotype that we have to face. You're the type who make it an uphill battle for us.
Thanks for that.
Why don't you just get two wives? One for love, the other for sex.
Or, three. One for love, one for sex, and one to throw out the window of your car, like the discarded objects you think they are.
Maybe you didn't get the memo. But it turns out women are now people, too.
2007-03-07 05:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by Colonel Enigma 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
People without a conscience, like what you describe, are generally known as sociopaths. And, no, if you love your spouse you don't cheat.
2007-03-07 06:00:52 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No,Because the attention that should be given to your wife is now redirected to another woman.You can't give your wife the love she deserves if you have someone else on your mind.
2007-03-07 14:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋