If she didn't like these things , she should not have gotten together with him in the first place. Right ?
2007-03-07 05:35:06 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A lot of women when they see potential in a man they think with change they will meet that potential. Sadly this does not work and it is not fair to the man. Although we all can benefit from change, we all need to know we are loved and accepted for who we are. Women that think they can change a man often find themselves disappointed when they learn he doesn't. No one can change from who we really are. Bad habits are something we all can learn to change, who we are isn't.
2007-03-07 07:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
We really don't have the power over you that you think, most of us don't even want it. We want you to hear our vision for the relationship and come to a conclusion if there is compromise (or not). We may express our thoughts or opinions on things, but in the end, you should always hold true to your thoughts, processes, priorities, etc. Change only if you see the need for change, but don't be stubborn and deny the need for change just because she brought something to your attention. When we love you (or even like you a little), we are your friends and try to have your best interest at heart.
2007-03-07 13:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by Nutzzzzz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Imagine you are interested in purchasing a house. You find one that you like and go to take a better look at it. It has a good price, but there are some problems. There aren't enough heating vents in the master bathroom, you need to buy screens for windows, little things. You can easily fix these problems, right? And you ARE totally crazy about this house...
This is how women feel with men.
2007-03-07 13:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by Maria 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The bad thing that we women are almost trained at birth with is our maternal instinct to take care of or thus change things. A lot of women grow up dreaming of the perfect man, they way they want him to look, act and basically breeding qualities. The worst women habit is getting into a relationship that turns out to not be what they expected so that instint and wants kick in and they decide they will try to change that person to their spects which is the worst thing you can do to another person. Learning that you should never go into a relationship or marriage to try to change someone will save you on a lot of time and dissappointment. So be you and if she can't except that leave her flat on her bum.
2007-03-07 13:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by Emily M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you talking about ALL women or is there is just one in particular your referring to? Listen up pal, Women, well the ones I know love their men for whom they are! But that is not to say that we wish they would automatically learn to budget their money (some of them) take out the trash (some of the them) walk the dog (some of them) or do odds and ends around the house (some of them). All people are different, and granted there are some control freaks out there. But if your "friend" is still with such a woman than that is his choice not yours. I don't mean to be harsh but stating that Women as in all women try to change men is not accurate nor is it fair for you to say out loud in a public forum. I think you should know you might get some thrashing from that open ended kind of question.
2007-03-07 13:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by Ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For some reason women seem to want a challenge. That is why you see so many single mothers running around in their late twenties and early thirties looking for a man that can hold a job and not slap them around. There must be something genetic that makes them go for the sorriest thing they can find.
Down thumb me til heck freezes over. Truth hurts. Any single man over thirty knows what I have said is true.
2007-03-07 13:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Woman in general are fixers ..we are raised this way .........we repair everything we can ...... so if she really likes you then she thinks you are worth repairing ......... of course men on the other hand will throw out the shirt before sewing the button back on...or think the shirt is fine with the missing button.........we are very different how we view the whole fixing thing.......if you try to understand why she does it and not fret so much ..try to have a little humor with it ...........oh your life will be so much better........but do not become a wimp either ..............compromise is the answer
2007-03-07 13:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by connie b 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Right - however, if the man and women are going to be a family, then both need to adjust themselves for a life together and make the family a priority.
2007-03-07 13:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by mel m 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not all women think that way. I for one would never change my hubby. I love him the way he is because the way he is, is the reason I married him, and if I would change him then that would ruin all the reasons why I married him. And that works visa versa too as well.
2007-03-07 13:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal A 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely. And once the rest of this women in the world figure out that all men think alike it wont be a problem.
2007-03-07 13:37:47 · answer #10 · answered by candidworker 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋