I have been involved in an interest relationship fo five years. Nothing really physical, but the emotions are there for both him and I. (we were physical when I saw him though) His job forces him to travel all around the world.. so I am only able to see him once every couple of years. Even through relationships with other men, I still continue to talk to him on a regular basis. Back in October he got married to a beautiful woman. He called me weeks prior telling me he was nervous, thought about me on a daily basis, and wished she was me. After talking to him through it all, I finally concluded that the reason he was getting married was because the clock was ticking.. and he felt he NEEDED to marry someone soon before it was too late. Him and I were in different directions in life. I never EVER thought this would happen! Every relationship I have been in, I never took seriously because I had him in the back of my head.. I cant even love my boyfriend now because of him.. advice!?
2007-03-07 05:33:56 · 13 answers · asked by Damian 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Move on. He is married. Cut ties with him and concentrate on your own relationship.
2007-03-07 06:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really cared about you he would have talked to you about having something more than just a "i'm in town now" sort of thing. I think the best thing for you to do is to take time for yourself and enjoy life, and most of all forget about him. If he didn't take the time to try and start something with you then he is worthless and doesn't truely know what he wants anyways. Don't contact him anymore or have him contact you, it'll only cause more heart ache on your end. Getting married because you think you need to is no way to live life, and the wife will probably be miserable in the end.
2007-03-07 13:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by Karrats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is ...... he did not marry you.....you can believe that he has other women aroudn the world that he has been with and is telling them the same thing......it is like this....he has a woman in every place he has to travel....Your best bet is to move on, and if you are even considering asking him if he has any other women around the world....he will say no.....see he can cheat on his new wife, and basically get by with it, because none of you are in the same place, so ther eis no risk of being caught.
Forget about this man and concentrate on your current BF.
2007-03-07 13:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jer-ry! Jer-ry! Jer-ry!!
Seriously, what the hell are you talking about?? If he felt he NEEDED to marry someone before it was too late, WHY DIDN'T HE MARRY YOU? Listen, he moved on and so did you, so why don't you just let this go? You say "we're in love", but if he's in love it's not with you. He's telling you he's thinking of you every day and wishes "she was you", etc., to get in your pants!! He'd tell any woman that if he thought she was going to give it up!
2007-03-07 13:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to be the one to tell you this, but he doesn't feel the same about you.
Why is it that you concluded his reason's for getting married?
Why did he ask her and not you? Why did he think that she was able to be with him, as he travels, and not you.
Unfortunately, I think your mistaken with this relationship. He probably thinks of you as a great friend and you think of it as something more.
He didn't wish she was you, if he felt that strongly about you he wouldn't have married her.
He loves HER.
Its time to move on...
2007-03-07 14:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by chersa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know how to tell you other than you need to just move on and forget about your boyfriend and it also sounds like he is timing his wife. God help her. I think that this, love triangle is gonna hurt you bad. You need to just drop it because it just might make you look bad. You do not need to be a mistress. I think you deserve better than that even though I do not know you but this is my advice. You need to move on with your life. Drop both of them.
2007-03-07 13:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest you move on, you missed the bus. Of course, its easy for me to say it, I'm not in your position. But look, there's only so much you can afford to spend brooding on anything, after a while you got to get on with life. I'd suggest you consciously try getting on with life, do something that pleases you, try something new, whatever it takes.
2007-03-07 13:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by verbalise 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time to let him go now, if u both were to worked out it would happen times ago..
You will never get hold of real happiness unless u let go n try to love ur boyfriend whole-heartly now!!
You dont love him but u juz feel upset that you never had him before.. let go and pursit true happiness of your own now.
good luck.
2007-03-07 13:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by blurly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump the married guy and cut all ties with him. he is married for goodness sakes hon. You will be much better off withouth him in you life to keep complicating things for you. Do not talk to him anymore. He needs to love his wife and work on his marriage with her. You need to move on with yours and keep on seeing your boyfriend. He married her for the wrong reason BUT he is married and vowed to love her til death do they part so you need to respect that and move on NOW!
2007-03-07 13:40:53 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are all longing for something that we can't have. You need to move on with your life. He is not meant to be yours.
Good luck!
2007-03-07 13:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋