Sadly My parents are catholics and of course they got me baptized and now that i'm in 8th grade they want me to get confirmed. The problem is, i dont want to be. I dont believe in Jesus and all that other stuff. And they want me to get confirmed and to to that we have to go all this crap which i dont see a point in doing-especially if I dont want to be confirmed. How can I tell them this?
2007-03-07 05:31:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Simple. "Mom, Dad, I want to go to hell."
Just to see the look on their faces....
2007-03-07 05:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Moe 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a catholic parent myself, I would love to see each one of my kids be confirmed and go to heaven. Despite my beliefs, it is upto them to do God's work. You are old enough (in my eyes) to know what you want to do and if you do your research than you may be able to tell them why you do not want this.
I would tell them that you want to wait to be confirmed so you can research and try out other beliefs and religions so you can pick the right one for you. By telling them in a very mature and educational manner, they may respect your wishes and let you choose. If you were my child I would listen to you because I would want what is best for you. It would not make sense to me to force a child or anyone to practice a religion that they did not believe in because you wouldn't respect it and there fore it would be a moral sin.
2007-03-07 13:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by 2shay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to sit down with them and talk. They need to understand how you feel about the situation and also understand that they can't force their beliefs onto you. You have to reach your own conclusions and make your own spiritual journey.
And your parents need to know that they have done nothing wrong in your upbringing. Many kids your age go through a time in which they begin to question everything they have been taught. Some eventually come back "into the fold", others find different paths to follow. But they need to allow you to make your own decisions about faith.
2007-03-07 13:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by tngapch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I, too, am sorry you don't believe. Without Jesus, I could never get through the trials of life. But, I also don't believe in being a hypocrite. If you don't believe, you don't believe. The whole purpose of confirmation is to state publicly that you do believe and intend to continue to be a catholic. But please try to tell them as gently as possible. Remember that what you are saying to them is going to break their hearts and lead them to all sorts of worry for you. I'm not saying you should go through with it to make them happy. I'm saying that out of love, you should try to help them understand as lovingly and respectfully as possible.
2007-03-07 13:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If they're any sort of good parents at all, they won't make you do something you don't want to. You're old enough now to know what you want to do as far as life decisions such as this. Just flat out tell them it makes you uncomfortable, and you don't feel this is the right choice for you. I hope they listen to you, good luck.
2007-03-07 13:35:26 · answer #5 · answered by unique2477 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you NOT BELIEVE? JUST TELL THEM THE TRUTH! you don't believe and give them valid reasons.
All that stuff? what stuff? catholic stuff? Ask your self what you do believe in and why. You'll come up with something to be able to discuss with your parents. Hopefully they are open minded.
2007-03-07 13:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and up front with them. Explain to them why you feel the way you do and exact reasons on why you don't want to be confirmed. Or you could just do it to please your parents. It's not going to hurt anything, sure you may view it as a waste of time but atleast your parents won't be upset over something trivial.
2007-03-07 13:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by Just D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit down with them and be honest about how you feel. However, it is very sad that you do not believe in God/Jesus Christ. When times are hard and there is sorrow and pain in your life, too bad that you don't believe in anything to help you get through it.
But try and be honest with your parents and let them know that it is not because you do not love them.That you do not want to hurt them, but you must be true to yourself.
2007-03-07 13:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Dude I feel your pain. Just do it for them to make them think it's all ok. When you get a little order you can make decisions for yourself. I had to do the same thing at your age. I only did it so they wouldn't get pissed off. I don't believe in any of it either. My advice is suck it up for now. You might get some $$ and gifts from friends and relatives. Hang in there my man. You will survive.
2007-03-07 13:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Sounds like you need more than comfirmation.
I will be praying for you!
2007-03-07 13:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋