ok this is what happend my ex boyfirend loves to rap and make songs so out of no where he made a song about his exgirlfrend and ask me to listen to it knowing that i did not know the song was made for his exgirlfrend...some of the words in the song..was i miss u i wish u was holding mei ...and thats all i herd.. i turn it off when i herd those 2 words i ask him if he still care about his exgirlfrend he said no...hes over her...and he got mad at me because i took it personal??? and he broke up with me over this stupid song and move to a differnt state with out tellen me anything and i still love and care for this man...and this other guy came along..and im so ..lost i dont know what to do plzz give me some advice it would really help..thanksz...
2007-03-07 05:28:00 · 8 answers · asked by thicc_azn_brezzy_510 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
The answer is unfortunately the one you wouldn't want to hear. He wrote a song for another girl, he moved away without telling you...there's clearly no respect there.
You do still love him and of course it hurts to move on when that's how you feel, but you must do it so that you live your own life, and not one running after someone else. I've waited around for aaages for some guys who've treated me like dirt like that, and made soo many excuses for them, but I've come to realise that it's not worth tearing myself up about and they're doing what they want to do anyway. You can't force a guy to stay around.
If he wants to come back then he will, but he won't want to come back to someone who is desperate for him. But that time apart gives you chance to look objectively at what you really want in a relationship...whether it's something you want to mess around in and have fun short term, or look for something more stable and ultimately Much more fun with someone who'll love you.
Remember...love is a verb. It's what you do, not what you feel.
You'll make the right decision! :)
2007-03-07 05:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An artist will not throw out a song that he wrote (even if it is a love song for another girl) that he feels is a true demonstration of his tallent. He could have told you that it was a song that he wrote in his dark time after a break up with another girl before playing it for you. It sounds like he was looking for you to tell him that he is good at what he does reguardless of his words.
Either way, from reading your message I get the feeling that you are not putting it all out there. Its very one sided and I have trouble believing that you did not have a heated argument over this (part of the fault being yours). Its ok to be upset by the words that he used in his songs but is it possible that you may have over reacted?
I dont know you, so my speculations may be far off cue. Either way if after the argument he turned his back on you and just moved away, it dosent sound like he really cared all that much to begin with or he would have stuck around to see if it could be worked out. After reading the bit about his moving I started to think that maybe he had you listen to the song to try to get you heated and cause a break up argument.
This man was obiously not in this relationship for the long haul and Im really sorry that you are hurting right now. Im glad that you have other men showing themselves as available to you right now because it will help you heal but dont jump right into a relationship right now unless you want to deal with all of the rebound garbage that comes with it. Its rough when good people deal with bad things like this, but given time your heart will heal and you will see that this was not best for you to begin with. Stay strong, learn to love yourself, and the partner that was ment for you will follow. Best of luck.
2007-03-07 05:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he did you a favor, move on! I know you may still care for him but it will fade you just need some time, he has made it clear he does not care for you or at least not as much as you care for him, at least now you know and you can move on to someone better. Remember, some guys are just Mr. Right Now not Mr. Right.
2007-03-07 05:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by poetprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your "boyfriend" sounds like a complete TOOL! You're well rid of him! Enjoy life, date if you want, hang out with friends, but just forget him. He will never change...what he did was SO thoughtless, it's hard to believe!
2007-03-07 05:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-20 12:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by Trisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably better off without him, it sounds like he has issues. Good luck with the new guy.
2007-03-07 05:30:49 · answer #6 · answered by pokecheckme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this guy cared one bit about you he would not have left you the way he did. put him behind you and move on
2007-03-07 05:31:15 · answer #7 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay in school and hit the books, boys will come later
2007-03-07 05:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋