I'm in my 40's, married a long time, happily mostly, and now divorced. I dated a few women, and slept with them, following the divorce. Then I met a guy, and, he asked to sleep with me, and, I did. He is quite nice, sophisticated, masculine, and, I did not realize he was gay until he asked to sleep with me. I loved the sex with him, really loved it. I never have really looked at other guys or have ever felt myself gay. But now, naturally, I am wondering. What is going on here?
2007-03-07 05:21:39 · 9 answers · asked by goldandsilver 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
How did he ask me to sleep with him, hah, a little personal...he obviously was successful in his quest.
2007-03-07 05:29:51 · update #1
Life is a journey. Sometimes we live a while before we start down a path that takes us to a destination, one of which we were unaware we wanted to visit. Once there, we can discover new experiences that enrich our lives.
I believe that - for now - you found something in this man that filled a need, whether it was physical, emotional, or spiritual. You have discovered that enjoyment, pleasure, and happiness is not dictated by another person's gender.
What is going on here? You are discovering there are more options in life than you once believed.
2007-03-07 05:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by behrmark 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's going on here, indeed! Well- you might be Bi, or you might be gay.... but you ain't straight. So that narrows the field a little.
But do you need to define yourself in your 40's? You had a good time. I think that is all I would say bout it for now, until you see what else is happening. BTW, when I was 16 I was boinking my GF like crazy, and I had a GREAT time... things change if your open to them. (no pun intended)
2007-03-07 13:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother defining yourself.
You're a free agent and open to experience. You could be bi, you could even be gay and have suppressed it for all those years and women.
Enjoy the ride - you already have :) - life has to offer. That's what counts.
2007-03-07 13:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh...you're Gay.
2007-03-07 13:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just out of curiosity, how did he go about asking you to sleep with him? How did you react inititially and when did you agree to it?
2007-03-07 13:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by RB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, everybody has alittle gay to then wheather they like to admit to it or not. it just takes that certian someone and the perfict timing to bring it all out of us. its exploration and courisity. embrace it!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-07 13:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by hot and spicy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be bi. There is nothing wrong with that. Let yourself experiment.
2007-03-07 13:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by U2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a one time fling (to satisfy your curiosity) or you could be Bisexual.
2007-03-07 13:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares! If you feel good about it go with it.
2007-03-07 13:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by The One and Only 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋