He says he wants kids in the future but not now. I dont know how to tell him, Im pregnant, Its his baby and everything I'm positive of that. But I dont know his reaction. I need help!
2007-03-07 05:15:03 · 22 answers · asked by Samantha 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
well,tell him his future begins in a couple of months
2007-03-07 05:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by sheila, TTC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should just come right out and tell him. Everyone knows if you are doing it and not fully protected this is a possibility. I know men do not like wearing protection but if they are not ready then they should not have sex without the glove even if you are on the pill or using other items. If he leaves after you telling him, then he was not the man for you. When I got pregnant with my first child my boy friend at the time was of no help. IT hurt me deeply at the time, but if you have picked a good man to sleep with he will not run. Did I tell you he came back, we have two children now and have been married 16 years Feb 9, 2007. I get on him every once in a while about his behavior, but it is a scary place to be in if you are not married before the children get there. When we talked about it then he admitted he was just scared. I was scared also. You have taken the time to sort your feelings out about your pregnancy, give him a little time to sort his out too. It will work in the long run. As women we know whether we have a keeper or a looser. GOOD LUCK
2007-03-07 13:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by RLW23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So to say it but that is what happens when you have sex.
Ok with that out of the way. Just find a nice quit place and time when you have him alone with you and no friends or family around and tell them you are pregant. Than tell him you are planning to keep the baby and you want him to be with you. When you have said everything you have to put on the table, STOP, and LISTEN to what he has to say.
2007-03-07 13:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me also. My husband and I had gotton pregnant like 3 weeks after we got married... I was soo freaked out to tell him because he didn't want kids and if we did have kids he wanted it to be waaaaay later! I couldn't bring myself to telling him, so instead i got a baby gift bag and filled it with some different stuff, like a bib that says " i love my daddy!" I will never forget the morning i gave him that bag, Nor, his face while eatting. His eyes didn't move, he didn't look down at his food, but it was nice because he was on his way to work.. *( so he had alone time to think )*... *( we were in college and the store he worked at it happened to be baby week where all baby stuff was on sale, haha )*... It took a lonnnng time for him to overcome his fear.. He wouldn't go to Ob/Gyn apts or anything butttt when I happen to have went to one of his apts at HIS DOCTOR with him, he asked the nurse if he could use her stethoscope to hear the babys heartbeat. she said OK, but he couldn't hear it, i still call the nurse an angel because she then without being asked and got the baby doppler and came back in and had me lie on the table so my husband could hear the babies heartbeat, it was from that second on that it put him more into reality. He then started coming to my appointments with me. There are some things I still wish could have been different *( like support from the start )* But like you even, you just found out the news that you're expecting, it takes time but you adjust. Be careful however how you present yourself. Negative people can weigh down other people *(including happy positive excited people)* which could in turn make him negative coming into this..*(especially if he is one who supports abortion )*... Don't apologize for becoming pregnant! But then you never quite know tho... he may be one that says " no kids yet " but may also handle this news really well!
2007-03-07 13:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by Carley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to tango. If he was a willing participant in the sex, he should accept the responsibility that comes along with it, which obviously sometimes includes a baby. Hopefully, you guys were using precautions against pregnancy, but nothing other than abstinence is perfect. Put yourself in his place. What if you were the one who didn't want kids yet? How would you feel? Would you be angry at yourself for getting pregnant? Or would you deal with it in a mature, adult way?
2007-03-07 13:23:52 · answer #5 · answered by claireag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, been there done that! I told my boyfriend the shocking news...then told him it was TOTALLY up to him how much he wanted to be involved. I genuinely was cool with his decision, no matter what it was. I told him that it was ok if he didnt want to be a part of it...I would find a way on my own and I promised that I wouldnt mention his name for child support or anything. He was quiet for a day, then he came back with the decision that he wanted us to be a family. Let him make the decision, and probably the idea will charm him.
2007-03-07 13:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by RedVengeance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i always said i wanted to wait and have children later on.... and when I found out i was... i was shocked and scared and all of that.... but the mister was super happy!
I have gotten to be real excited about it and im so glad it happened now.... its actually the best time now that i think about it! ..... just tell him. if he wants them in the future, he will still love this baby. it just may take him a little bit to get accustomed to the fact he is gonna be a daddy!
good luck, and don't stress out about it! (if you dont tell him... he will find out pretty soon.... )
2007-03-07 13:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by ishyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You NEED to tell him NOW! Don't hesitate and don't do anything drastic that would harm the baby if his reaction is not pleasing to you. If he loves you enough to have sex with you then he should love you enough to take responsibility for what you two are about to bring into the world. Its not about you or him now, it's about the child and what the child needs. Please visit http://www.pregnancycenters.org for great information and guidance. I hope everything works out for the benefit of the child, for you and the daddy.
2007-03-07 13:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by Goober W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend doesn't want kids right now either, considering I'm not done with college, but if I got pregnant right now I would tell him, because there will be a time he HAS TO KNOW. So tell him now, and you will see how he acts, and if he cares he'll accept it, because it's not just your fault, its his too, and some boys don't understand that, I see why your scared but you have to face reality now. Goodluck!
2007-03-07 13:20:38 · answer #9 · answered by Lorelei's Mommy ( & prego) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he was ready to have sex with you, it will be a tough time in your life, some guys will run away from the responsibility but if he is a real man and really loves you he should stick by your side, i dont know how you should tell him, you should just tell him you need to talk and then let it out, and let him know that you need him and you want you rbaby to have a father... if he bails or anything there are millions of single mothers out there that have had other happy relationships after the baby and went on with their life... i hope everything works out for you
2007-03-07 13:19:17 · answer #10 · answered by deceptions 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not to sound rude, but if he or you didn't want kids you should have used birth control. If you did, well then this kid was meant to be. Tell him your pregnant, and tell him he can be mature about it and take it on, or he can continue to be a child himself and move on. Just be prepared to take this on yourself..If hes not man enough to take care of you or a child you have together than you should find someone who will.
2007-03-07 13:25:08 · answer #11 · answered by lilpeach192001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋