My bf and i have been together on and off for almost 10 months.We just got engaged and i really love him.We were friends first before we dated and though he could be a jerk he was never this bad.Three months into the realationship he started with some of his illegal money making ideas(fraud/stealing).I thought he was kidding .His parents pay his college tuition/rm board and he lives on an allowance off of about 330 dollars a month for basic things he does not work.I am pretty sure he is going through with his schemes though because he is spending a lot of money (plasma T.V? etc.)I dont understand how he can have changed so fast?He used to value my opinion but now ignores me?
2007-03-07 05:09:27 · 12 answers · asked by Kristen M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I all i want to do is get him to stop and go back to acting normal like the nice guy i new.
2007-03-07 05:16:40 · update #1
dump this guy and move on---do u wish to be considered an accomplice???
2007-03-07 05:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, here's the thing. He honestly didn't change. You are now seeing his true colors, the unfortunate thing is he was doing this all along and didn't expose you to it right away. Trust me, this happens in almost every relationship. Because you were on/off again, you didn't get a chance to see this side of him. He ignores you because he knows you don't agree with what he's doing (and probably doesn't care what you think) which isn't good news either. The best thing to do is duck out of this relationship and do your own thing for awhile, go out with friends/family; keep your options open! Good luck and best wishes!
2007-03-07 13:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your situation is typical of the women that think they can rescue a guy and change him. He has his own mind, and he alone decided to do illegal activity. His parents pay for his tuition, he does not work, and he makes money by illegal schemes. What I have described IS the way he is, he is NOT the nice guy you thought him to be. You are blindly in love and I fear one day this will lead you to much heartache. Stop trying to be his mother by trying to take care of what he does. You are only responsible to take care of yourself. Being with him is not the way to do it. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-07 13:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I have a brother-in-law like that and I hate him, he is a loser and a scammer, he will even scam his own relatives. My husband and his brother get into these terrible fights over this, I'm afraid someone is going to get killed. You need to get away from this spoiled little loser. You think he treats you bad now, the worst is yet to come. Please don't even consider marrying this scum, he will ruin your life. Your kidding right, his parents are still paying him an allowance, even after college? Unbelievable!!! You need a man that will love you and respect you and one that can stand on his own two feet. Not a spoiled little Mommas boy, who still gets a measly little 330.00 a month from his Mommy and Daddy. They created this monster, let them live with him. Old men have a saying," Every young woman has to adopt a loser at least once in her life" Sweetheart, you've found yours!! Run!!!!
2007-03-07 13:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but he may be under the influence of something. People can change, especially if theya re on soemthing. I would totally let this guy go, and fast. It's obvious he isn';t responsible. He still depends on his parents, even if you two are engaged. What kind of life are you two going to have? I would leave him now, before you get yourself caught up in his crap! Trust me, if you love him, it's the best thing you could do for him. He has to hit his rock bottom to straighten up. Good luck!
2007-03-07 13:19:17 · answer #5 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this guy is doing illegal stuff, you need to get rid of him and fast. Better yet, ask where he got the money for his new toys and if he says none of your business, then you know hes doin illegal stuff. If his answer is mom and dad, you should talk to his parents and say it was nice of them to do that for him. If he is lying, they will prolly straigten him out since they are footing the bill for everything he does. Seems like the relationship was rocky to begin with since it was on and off, and now he doesnt seem to care about what you have to say....... mabey its time for you to stop caring about him and move on. Your still young and there will be someone that really cares about you and your opinion. Good luck
2007-03-07 13:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by mcfly_lives 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to take a step back and decide if you want to marry a convict? If he'll cheat innocent ppl. what makes you think he won't take advantage of you?
If he does go through with it and get caught, the court could take eveything including your stuff, as it was illegally obtained, through theft, fraud or deceit.
Then you could say good bye to your car,home,savings, etc.
Sounds like a no brainer to me
2007-03-07 13:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by walker9842 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's difficult for a person to maintain an "act" for a long period of time...
if you are willing to tolerate the illegal activities and his laziness, more power to you!
i can't understand why a woman would even CONSIDER marrying someone of this caliber? he will likely end up in jail.
you are settling for much less than you deserve.
2007-03-07 13:15:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT I REPEAT DO NOT MARRY HIM. Have you ever heard of accessory to a crime, if you know anything about any of his illegal stuff, they can get you for it too. You better get away from him now, before the police catch up to him.
2007-03-07 13:18:20 · answer #9 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He didn't change, he had schemes going on all along and is now putting them to use. Dump him, he's a criminal.
2007-03-07 13:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should be wise and end this relationship. He is definitely not ready for marriage. Besides that, who knows what he is really capable of doing.
You should end it.
2007-03-07 13:23:47 · answer #11 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋