I got drunk one night at a 'friends' house. I had been over there before, and this guy I know had made it seem like we were just friends and he would look out for me. The next morning, I wake up in his bed(where I had passed out before and nothing had happened), and seems like he had had sex with me. I remember crying at some point, but can't remember anything else. Is this rape? Now I hear he has a history of this type of thing. I don't remember giving consent and never would have, I wasn't interested in him like that. It has been over a month. If it is rape, is there anything I can do? I already know I am stupid for putting myself in that situation, but I need advice. Can I press charges, will they stick?
2007-03-07 04:58:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Legally yes it is rape. Anytime someone has sexual relations with someone else against their will or if they are incapacitated and cannot give informed consent, that is rape. Can you press charges? Yes, you probably can but you will have to go through a lot of crap for it. If it's true that he has a history, can you find any of his other victims? If there are many of you, the charges are more likely to stick. But in the future, don't drink so much. You're destroying your liver, putting your life in danger, and what if you had ended up pregnant?
2007-03-07 05:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you had gone to the police or Emergency Room right after it happened and they could have tested for semen and tested for common drugs that might have been slipped to you, you might have had a case but even then, it would be very iffy as by your own admission, you have gotten drunk in the past and blacked out with this person and did so again, and not sure what happened.
As you say you now find out his has a history of this, you could go to the police and tell them your story and if other women have come forward it might help them build that case, or might help them build a case for the next victim, but I don't see any charges sticking in this case.
At best, even if he admits that you have sex, he will likely claim it was consensual, you slept in his bed before, and that his capacity was diminshed also because he had been drinking...at worst, it would be sexual miconduct, not rape.
To get the support you need, call 1-800-656-HOPE (4673), it is a 24/7 National Assault Rape Crisis Hotline.
You may also consider getting involved in Alcoholics Anonymous.
If you are drinking to the point you are passing out you are putting yourself in danger and you need to get help before something even worse than this "friend" that may have raped you...you could end up gang raped or dead.
2007-03-07 05:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you did press charges i dont think they would do any thing as you was drunk so there for you are not sure so he has a better change of getting off with it i think it id half and half with the rape but as you was drunk you dont really know and no one else will but him sorry gd luck and next time be more careful ok x best answer plz x
2007-03-07 05:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First issues first, have her appeared at for bruising and abraisions. If she became into not forceably molested then she wil be with out such marks. 2nd, have her appeared at for pregancy. you're able to do those with out well being care provider in case you pick. in case you utilize a doctor she would have the ability to be rape kitted and which could be nerve-racking to her. 0.33, this is rape in each and every state for an eighteen twelve months previous boy to have intercourse with a sixteen twelve months previous female with out being married first. this is statutory rape yet rape none the fewer. And marrying the female after the offence would not nullify the offence. She ought to press quotes. Fourth, whoever gave her the alcohol is likewise criminally answerable for the offence. offering the alcohol that convey approximately her dropping her virginity is supporting and abetting interior the commision of a criminal.If it seems to be the eighteen twelve months previous boy then he has yet another charge to stand further demonstrating his rationale to interrupt the regulation that day. 5th, get the female examined for STDs. this is uncertain that she has shrunk any yet you in no way recognize. anybody is claiming ignorence which i come across below credible so there's achieveable that anybody at that occasion would have had intercourse with the female, and which would be a protection the othe factor will use if this is going to trial. additionally they'll say she had to have intercourse and that she had to get inebriated. in short they'll paint her as an ignorant little whore. this is easily not noticeably. 6th, and maximum critically tell her you like her and that this is a factor of her existence she would have the ability to would desire to come to words with in time. this is easily not long until now absolutely everyone who's involved would recognize the reality of her virginity. be conscious travels rapid whilst their is little else to communicate approximately. she would have the ability to need your love and help no count what occurs next. And seventh, get her some expert help. she would have the ability to choose a individual to communicate to that has no awl to grind. Rape, perceived or otherwise, is a poison in her techniques suited now and this is useful to have somebody to communicate to who isn't there to decide you yet quite to hearken to you as you paintings issues out for your self. i recognize this became into lots to be sure and take in yet yours became right into a severe question that has severe implications and urban steps to coping with those implications. good success.
2016-12-18 07:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you should have gone to the hospital to see if you have had sex and try to get a semen sample to see if he was the own that allegedly sexual assaulted you...it's going to be harder for you to even do anything if time has passed by...if a substantial amount of time has passed then there is really nothing you can do, but take it an experienced learned..
2007-03-07 05:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by fatiegurl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hard to say unless for sure you know you SAID NO! People do stupid things when their drunk. But you already know that.
I mean you say SEEMS like he had sex with you....ya see are you sure he went all the way? man guys are just pigs. You gotta have proof etc. Did you go to see a doctor yet?
2007-03-07 05:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not rape. Next time, think about this situation before you drink yourself into oblivion. You probably were crying when you were vomiting. That's a shame. Straighten up!!
2007-03-07 05:15:21 · answer #7 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could try, but the DA will probably not press charges due to lack of evidence. Sorry this happened to you.
2007-03-07 05:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Alcohol makes people do very stupid things at times....things a person would normally not do. You wouldn't still be in his bed if you hadn't consented.
2007-03-07 05:03:26 · answer #9 · answered by wrckdbike 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'm not really sure the same thing kinda happend to me on my 20th bday.. um it was my first time.. and i dont' really remember much of anything at all about it..
um.. i didn't end up doing anythign as i didn't see a point..
2007-03-07 05:02:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋