Is there a double-standard among men/women living with their parents and are in their 20's? If a man were 22 staying with mom/dad, he'd get ridiculed (by men and women alike). Is it not equally loserish? I moved away from my parents at age 18. I'm in my early 20's now and have been on my own ever since. She doesn't even think there's anything wrong with it. She said she'll probably live with her mom another 5 years or more. And I believe it's going to be the "or more."
She also drops in and out of school periodically, and moves from job to job. Currently she's unemployed and just stays on the internet.
2007-03-07 04:56:01 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
2beagles: you hit it right on! she actually does have low self-esteem and is depressed, but i left that part out. she's always saying she's unhappy with life. and believe me, i have tried to coerce her to get out of her rut. but she's always making excuses and saying "i can't" or "i don't know how." i don't know what's wrong with her.
2007-03-07 05:18:53 · update #1
I wouldn't necessarily say your friend is a loser. Maybe just a bit immature yet and hasn't decided what she wants in life. If she's contantly changing jobs and is currently unemployed, it sounds like maybe she has a bit of low self esteem and could also be depressed. Her mother also needs to stop enabling her and make her get a job if she is to continue living at home. Instead of judging her, ask her if anything's going on in her life. Maybe you could be the one to bring her out of this rut she is in.
2007-03-07 05:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my parents until this past December, and I will be 25 the end of this month. I stayed in school for 5 years, and moved home after I graduated until I could be financially ready to move out. There is nothing wrong with living with your parents in your 20s.
However, the visits in and out of school, and lack of motivation to find a job is shady. I have a few friends that have still not finished school, and we've been graduated from high school for 7 years. Many are working on a 2 year associates degree. Some people just aren't cut out for college, others just don't want to take responsibilty for their future.
2007-03-07 05:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by agentm006 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 08:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by celia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she lives with her mom doesnt make her a loser, but the fact that "she also drops in and out of school periodically, and moves from job to job - Currently she's unemployed and just stays on the internet" does make her a loser.
I am 28 and live with my mom and have real good reasons to live there, but i dont depend on her financilally - I take care of my own business and have my own life.
2007-03-07 07:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by Java Chip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your friend has no self-motivation to go to school and make somethig out of her life and not having a job shows that she might be going through a situation in her life to the point that she is depressed.You have no right to label her as being loser-ish. It is up to your friend to get out of her pity party and start trying to better herself. I'm 23 years old and I still live with my parents. I work and go to school full-time and I help out around the house. I get along really well with my parents and they both don't have a problem with me living with them. I plan on moving out once I finish college and moving on towards grad school. Talk to your friend and give her some encouragement. She will appreciate that, but, if she doesn't stop her pity party, don't be bothered.
2007-03-07 06:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by Lady S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, not until I read your last paragraph did I think that the girl was "loserish". I was going to ask about the situation. I know alot of people in their twenties who still live at home because they are helping their parent(s) financially. Seems as though your friend however couldn't even help her self financially. It's a case by case decision. She's a loser.
2007-03-07 05:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by cxboobersxt 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband has a friend who is 55 and HE still lives with his mom. That's not a man, that's a boy.
2007-03-07 05:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have no right to comment on someone elses lifestyle. She is doing what works for her. She is probably trying to come out of school without a lot of debt.
2007-03-07 05:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by professorc 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
yes, im a girl and realllllllllllllllllllly close to mother,but i wont stay at home for that long. maybe drop in lots but not stay with my parents.
2007-03-07 05:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by hot g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a lazy, dependent, momma's baby. What would really be bad is if parents encourage it instead of just tolerate the situation.
2007-03-07 05:02:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋