about wife kids doing what they want wife gives and gives and they cuss and dont care. here is my actual question-Im haveing trouble understanding my wife all she does is nagg and nagg on me about how i help my two exs. with funds one is marrried and the other is not keep in mind they have my kids. i dont find it funny at all that when my wife asks for my help cash wise and i try to give/hand her cash to do whatever she needs to do with it, but she refuses to take it and it always ends in a arguement and every time i get in my car and drive around for a bit or i go to the garage to give her time to cool down so we can talk cival i keep asking her to just listen to what i have to say but all she does is yakh yakh yakh blah blah blah.seems like our marriage has never took off from day one&i keep asking myself is she really worth it and like i told her look at me im still here married to you. she always says that she usually just leaves everything behind and starts over Is she mentally il
2007-03-07 04:46:43 · 11 answers · asked by elghost157 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, a woman that acts this way about you supporting your children is not even on the same page with you. Her children apparently do not respect you and neither does she, the children actually walk around the house cursing and she says nothing to them? I'm sorry, but you need to get out of this relationship. The constant nagging and complaining, the unruly children, the way she acts about money, it's a losing battle. Free yourself, this woman is trouble and so are her children. You don't need this in your life. Show them all the door. Good Luck Did she not know of your financial obligations prior to your marriage to her? If so, she has no reason to complain. You are supporting her children aren't you? What's good for the goose is good for the gander. You say that your marriage hasn't worked out since day one. Maybe you should be in a relationship with someone who doesn't have children. Your responsibility's to your own children are a heavy burden, but she knew that when she married you. This relationship is going no where.
2007-03-07 05:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be supporting your children not your ex's.
If you pay support that should be it.
You are not there as their private funder for your ex's.
I can see your present wife's point.
If you make her feel like she is standing in a long line with her hand out like your ex's, then she could take offense.She might get upset.
She wants to have some independence, but is having a hard time with your actions.
You need to have a civil relationship with ex's and have the relationship with the kids.
There could be a green eyed monster here peeking from behind the bushes(jealousy).
I wonder how carefully you chose this wife......
did you do all the homework, talk about your children, ex's finances. seems like you left a few things out.
She feels deceived and is very disappointed in you.
I am not saying you should'nt help now and then but there should not be a steady stream of cash flowing to the ex's.
You need to get a hold of this and maybe make some changes.
if this does not help the situation, then perhaps you and you present wife need counselling.....
Find out why the marriage isn't working and see if it is salvageable.....
There is no easy answer here, but you have to put a stop to financing your ex's lives......
2007-03-07 05:06:17 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not like this but it's working for me. Stay out of your ex's life. Be there for your kids. Love your wife, show her she's the only woman in the world for you. Women are very possessive and quite frankly ... she should come first. Someday when your an old man and your kids don't really show up to take care of you cause there too busy ... She will be there by your side. Make it happen. It's not about finding the right one ... It's being the right one. Be a good man to this woman and forge your life with her.
2007-03-07 05:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by Lookin 4 Class 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I an no longer likely to provide help to be attentive to your youthful and all that blah because of the fact the certainty of the situation is it could have been me and a million/2 of the different people who provide help to be attentive to your too youthful. yet thats because of the fact nicely this situation. in any case its achieved. ok so which you're protecting the toddler. No abortion,al no adoption, so thats l that leaves. nicely gee the 1st element i could do is initiate analyzing approximately being pregnant, what your assume to do in a various way whilst your watching for. Like no asprin or ib profen, and so on. Then on line seem for teen mothers and dads who've been nevertheless this. they're going to be your maximum suitable convenience. i'm older with 3 little ones and a husband, i'm no longer able to truly relate. whether, i choose the the main suitable option for you. Get each little thing so as till now you tell your mothers and dads so they be attentive to your being in charge and arranged. additionally be open to listening to those who've been there and achieved that.
2016-11-23 13:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by villalobas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doing what you need to do to help your children is top priority without a doubt.money and children from the past is always the brunt of fights with new wives and husbands and i don't understand why it has to be that way i mean if the same woman that's upset about you taking care of your children was to have a child with you she would demand the child be supported and with all right to.all i can say is be the man your children will be proud of when they are grown ups and let the women that cant handle it move on to someone else that's more into taking care of them then doing the right thing
2007-03-07 04:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard of a period? It's this little black dot you put at the end of a sentence... See? There's 3 of them.
You've got a heck of a problem here buddy. You've got baggage from previous marriages--who knows what she's got, but she is obviously bothered by your financial connection with these women. It could just be jealousy--not mental illness, stupid!
If you took the time to actuallylisten to and speak to your wife to make sure she's on the same page as you, things would work out better. Right now, you said so yourself, she sounds like yak yak blah blah to you. I bet you're even tuning out this answer that I'm writing right now. You have a short attention span! But don't blame your wife for that. You need to work on patience, listening, and respect for the woman who married you (poor thing--your wife, I mean).
Don't screw up a 3rd marriage just because you aren't hearing what you want to hear. Marriage is a two-way street. What she says to you matters a lot--so respect her and listen!!!
Good luck!
2007-03-07 04:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by f8_smyled 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To start with, your wife has a point, if you pay child support, and buy your kids the extras they need, your ex's don't need anymore, exspecially the one that's married.
I'm not taking sides but as an exhusband myself I know what your going through, I've bought washers,dryers, etc. even gave her a car, but it still wsn't enough. Even after she got remarried I did extra stuff for her, then one day I woke up and realized I was being used, maybe that's why your wife is upset?
2007-03-07 05:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by walker9842 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not at all good. Either get a divorce, or get counseling...that's if you want to stay in the marriage. Actually, you should get counseling anyway. You say you are on your 3rd marriage...and you're then asking if the current wife is mentally ill? Um...the problem maybe with you, and your communication skills, or lack there of.
2007-03-07 04:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is your third marriage? I think you both are.
2007-03-07 04:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to quite getting married until you learn what "COMMITMMENT" , & "MARRIAGE" really means.
2007-03-07 05:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋