he is married for 7yrs and has 2 kids.he doesnt love HER anymore and told me he would want to be with me rather than his wife. his wife really treats him like ****. we have so much in common and we're happy being together. he told me to just wait for some time because he's going to file for a legal separation. but im thinking it would be a very long process so how long will i be the "2nd" girl? i love him soo much and he tells me the same thing too and i can feel it. i just feel guilty,especially for the kids, though he said its not my fault coz long before i came, he's already planning for a separation.
is this right or wrong? should i stay and wait or should i opt to wait for someone who is single? im really confused. if he's already separated,can we still be sued for adultery or something?
please help me!
2007-03-07 04:37:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Planning the separation?
Yeah I am sure.
If he hasn't left his wife, he isn't planning on it honey.
He is waiting until he's threw with you, and then he'll say to you "blah blah blah, my kids, blah blah blah 7 years with her, blah blah blah he really cares for you, blah blah blah he's sorry"
two weeks later he'll be sleeping with a new woman,
You'll never be first in his life. He's using you.
Now brush it off, stop being a home wrecker, and find a single guy...
2007-03-07 05:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by chersa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you are asking yourself what to do after seven long years. You should have givne it a thought before indulging into such relationship. I don't understand what's wrong with people today. They start of a relationship, fall into so called love with someone, and sometime down the line, out of nowhere, they develop an uncanny feeling about it.
Anyways, the best option for you is let the time play it's role. You have already gambled too far with your decisions. At this point of time, it's real difficult for you to leave the table. Both ways, you will be losing the bet. So it's upto you to decide, risk it further, you may win (rare chances). Or move out and secure your future.
All the best...
:-)
2007-03-07 07:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to back all the way off. You really don't know if he's telling the truth or not. Somone who would commit adultery would also lie. Go on with your life. If he does get a divorce and you both still have feelings maybe you will get together then when he is single. At least you will know that you did not break up a marriage. But do think of one thing. If he's doing this to his wife now maybe he will also do this to you.
2007-03-07 06:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO U CNT B SUED FOR ADULTERY, there is no law against having an affair with someone who is already married, if u luv him stay with him and u have to trust him but yeh u r goin to ruin his family in a sense when they find out about u...jus think what those kids are going to think of their father and then they are going to find out it's because of u....do u even kno dat this man is going to file the papers or is he just saying that so he can use you
2007-03-07 11:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by 123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you guys are sometimes full of **** and this one seems to be a master. If you enjoy sex with him then have good time with him but I bet he is not going to doing anything about his wife. Talk about the legal separation is a crap and you should know that. I tell you this with confidence because I used this trick when I was younger as an *** hole.
2007-03-07 05:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is not the right person for u he cheated his first wife he will cheat with u too and his wife didnt cheat him its just a family matter most family hav this kind of ups and downs that doesnt mean separation and he should think about his kids rather than getting married again
wat will be the future of those kids
my friendly advice to u is give sacrifice for those kids please dont break the house ur a woman u can understand more than man that how hard is it make a family i dont think a woman will break another womans family.
2007-03-07 11:32:42 · answer #6 · answered by shaheed a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you fell for that line huh? okay look I have some swamp land in Missouri I'm selling you want in?
You want help. Get some therapy. Think about what you have done to this mans children and wife. If he truly wanted to get a divorce he would have done so already. But he's got you now so he's got every thing he could ever want hahahaha
2007-03-07 05:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, why did you go for a married man? I mean there are hella single guys out there and if he cheated with you, he will cheat on you...Sorry but you should wait til everything is done and over with or maybe hes just stringing you along. Either way he's a cheater and if she treats him soo bad why are they going on 7 years?
2007-03-07 05:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by Sissy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably does have feelings for you, but if he loved you, he'd put you first. Leave him until he actually does file for a separation or moves out. Make him take that first step.
2007-03-07 05:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until the divorce is final before making any changes
2007-03-07 05:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋