have been fighting with my husband alot. He is illegal from Mexico. We have a baby girl who is turning 1 2morrow. I love her with all my heart and even he knows this too well. We live with my parents living@home makes me feel safe. My husband has a tendency of getting violent. doesn't beat me but at times will hit me once then stop. Last fight; jealous over me spending time with my family.BAD. The next day, thinking my partents heard us, he calls my dad saying i talk bad about my family. And that is why he can't have a relationship with them. He exagerated alot. basically, when i have afight with my family i tell him how i feel. so now i feel i can't trust him, cuz he is using that against me. I pay the bills mostly. He spends his money on whatever. Him=always late picking up our baby, Me=i don't want to hear the bitching from my aunt, Him=tells her i call her a *****! him=move out with me. Me=can't afford it. Me=divorce? Him=I'll take Maria to Mex and U will never see her again! Help!
2007-03-07 04:35:54 · 15 answers · asked by b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's a tough situation, especially being that your child is involved. You need to do what is best for your child. He is abusive towards you and will eventually become that way towards her. Please get some type of help. If you cannot rely on your family please seek advice from a church or from the law. I know I live in Florida and we have a shelter for battered women who do miracles... the shelter is a safe haven until the woman are able to get back on their feet... Please seek some type of help before he hurts you anymore. You deserve the best and so does your child. I know you are probably scared but trust me.. it's the best thing you can do at this point.
2007-03-07 04:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, call imigration on him (hopefully you're not an illegal as well) and have him deported. Secondly, look up your state's legal aide group that will help with low-or-no-cost divorces. Tell them EVERYTHING he has done to you, from the hitting to being late picking up the baby. He is NOT a good partner or a good parent.
Next, find a family member or friend who lives out of town and stay with them until this mess is sorted out. If you don't have anyone you can go to, find your local women's shelter (or one in a nearby town) and stay there with your daughter. Look into getting a restraining order so your husband can't kidnap your baby and try to run for the border with her. Don't travel alone if you can avoid it, and don't leave your baby with anyone you don't fully trust (as in they might hand the baby over to him).
I hope this helps. Good luck!
2007-03-07 12:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by serena_dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take a stand with this nut case he is way beyond trusting him if he would threaten to take your child out of the state and keep her from you...call the police now don't wait to see if he calms down then have him removed from the home without guilt on your part he has played his last card in this game the safety of your child is top of the list nothing is more important not how you feel about him or your fear of where he might end up if the police get involved who's to say the next time he gets heated about something he will even think about telling you he would take your daughter he might just go with her and as sad as it is i doubt that you could find her if he did so kick this nut case to the curb get what ever you need to get as far as court orders and don't ever look back he is not worth the time it would take to worry about him i mean what kind of man is that to threaten you with the loss of your child not much of one if you ask me
2007-03-07 12:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by patbgone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call immigration have him deported! he gives hard working Mexicans a bad name! I wouldn't even trust him with the baby! You don't need him your obviously taking care of you and your daughter he's just dead weight. He needs you more...basically he's using you is what I think. You know you have a child here to think about. This is not a healthy environment for her.
2007-03-07 12:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
call immigration and have his butt thrown back to mexico and oh yes call the cops too because when he gets in trouble with the law i know for sure they will find out he is illegal alien and they will get immigration involved and bye bye psycho husband and hello loving family!
2007-03-07 12:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should divorce him and get custody of your baby girl and hitting some one is abuse why don't you have him arrested then tell the police he's illlegal from mexico don't let him scare you into staying take your child and go to a domestic violence shelter before the hitting turn's much worse
2007-03-07 12:44:08 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
what the hell wrong with you why are you with him ok now go to the court house and file for a divorce and asked for a waver so you dont have to paid also asked for a resraining order to keep him away from you and your child good luck
2007-03-07 12:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you illegal?.... if you are not then I would head to the court house and file for divorce an sole custody of my child.... If you fo that then you will get it and you will not be in any trouble if you run with your child you can get yourself into trouble,,,....
Just do things legally and let them work it out.....
2007-03-07 12:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get RID of him!!! Call the immigration police and get him escorted out of the country!! Ew.....I hate men like that. He could end up hurting your daughter as well....you need to get away from him quickly.
2007-03-07 12:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you= lawyer....you =divorce. It is as simple as that.....you have to know this....if he hit you once, and you let him get by with it. and you have because he has hit you again......then he is just going to get worse. You need a lawyer so that he can tell you what you need to do, or head to a battered women shelter, they typically have ppl there or can put you in touch with ppl that can help you.
2007-03-07 12:42:28 · answer #10 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋