that i feel that he is neglecting me and ignoring me.
2007-03-07 04:35:03 · 18 answers · asked by nikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I sure would like to spend more time_________, like we used to....We always had so much fun.
2007-03-07 04:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK heres what I did when I felt neglected by my wife. When she came home from work I had my son at someone elses house and I cooked a romantic dinner with rose pedals from the door to the liveng room where the table was and had them everywhere. Them after a romantic dinner we watched a movie just the two of us and went upstairs and had all kinds of candles lit and had a romantic night. I know your a girl and all and that you probually think that is all different and stuff but it would probually work for you. It is very relaxing and during like the time you watch the movie that is your connect time together. When it is quiet like that you can ask anything at all. It will work just take the extra mile and you'll see it will work!
2007-03-07 14:43:06 · answer #2 · answered by dirbe22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to go into the conversation gently but directly. Guys just don't tend to get it when we try leaving clues and then are mad at us for being mad that they didn't "get it".
In a book I once read, they took a couple with a similar problem and timed out exactly how long she needed to be hugged to feel like he cared for her. She needed a 5 second hug to feel like they connected. Once they had a concrete plan he knew exactly what he needed to do and she felt more connected.
Now that may seem like a silly example but if you can go to your DH with what you need to feel connected whether it's a 5 second hug or breakfast together on Saturdays or a weekend a month out... whatever it is, you'll have more chance of actually getting it.
2007-03-07 12:46:06 · answer #3 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is useless, I have told my husband that, in different ways, 100 times and nothing! A week will be good then it goes right back to it. He isn't cheating I know that for sure, but maybe he just doesn't always want to be around me. I know this sounds stupid, but its true. I don't always want to be with him all the time, but he isn't telling me oh you are ignoring me and we need to work on it! I hope you kind-of understand. If it really bothers you then do something, but if it is minor then deal with it.
2007-03-07 12:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by candy192111 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably PAST time that you do tell him directly; otherwise, you are just going to get more resentful. C'mon, you love each other, talk it out - things DO get better, but only if the TWO of you are working on your marriage and relationship.
2007-03-07 13:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first question to you is why not just tell him? You can't beat around the bush when it comes to men. They're nothing like females. Furthermore, sounds like you need to learn some communication skills. Communication is key to a successful relationship.
2007-03-07 12:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight with him. Tell him directly BUT be sure to go into the conversation with possible solutions...it is something the two of you need to work on, not just him.
Good luck!
2007-03-07 12:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by christine_ 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
dunno what kind of response youll get. you know him best.
instead of telling him something he surely doesnt want to hear or believe...why dont you start putting more attention on him as a start? little surprizes...have fun thinking of things to do for him affectionately, showing him how much you love him and want to be with him! those things will make him feel good when he's with you...maybe he will try to reciprocate once he realizes youre doing it because you love him and not trying to gain anything from him. he will look forward to being with you perhaps and make an effort to be with you more. while you are thinking of ways to make him feel good...dont feel resentment!..he's your hubby and you should make him feel gooood....it should make you feel happy inside to do things for him. peace
2007-03-07 12:48:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make plans for just the two of you and put the spark back in the marriage.
2007-03-07 12:39:06 · answer #9 · answered by chrisisdifferent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and let him know how you feel. Don't beat around the bush, don't be shy about it. Just let him know that you are feeling neglected.
Men appreciate direct honesty, and it's about the only way he will know what you are talking about and do something about it.
2007-03-07 12:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by no1bucsfan26 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him face to face hands in hand and say this is really important to me now can we grow closer together how can i meet your needs and also share him yours ask about setting
a date night for each other one for him and you make them fun .
send him love letters also drop hints from even putting lingerie in his breif case or lunch bag with a note saying thinking of you .
talking 1st
2007-03-07 12:51:05 · answer #11 · answered by Duck / Deer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋