My bf and i have been together on and off for almost 10 months.We just got engaged and i really love him.I am worried about some of his illegal money making ideas(fraud/stealing).His parents pay his college tuition/rm board like mine and he lives on an allowance off of about 330 dollars a month for basic things he does not work.I suspect that he is going through with some of his schemes because he is spending a lot of money (plasma T.V? etc.)When i asked if his parents had raised his allowance he said no that he had other means of making money.I am afraid he is up too something stupid and will end up getting arrested!He seems to think he is invinsible because he has no record and his parents can get him a good layer if he get in trouble.Why wont he take my advice and stop whatever he is up too?
2007-03-07 04:31:27 · 13 answers · asked by Kristen M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He thinks that since he is giving me lots of gifts that i should be looking the other way.So talking to him feels like talking to a brick wall!
2007-03-07 04:34:13 · update #1
Oooooo, girl! Run, don't walk - out the door! This guy is major trouble just waiting to happen, and if you don't get out now, you could be implicated along with him!
Prison Orange doesn't do much for a girl, so find you another guy ASAP!
2007-03-07 04:35:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kids think that the bad stuff always happens to the "other" guys.
I have a University in my home town and a student was just arrested for making false ID's for $50 a pop. Not only is his higher education gone, but he will now land in jail ( forgery is a crime), and have a criminal record for the rest of his life.
Now YOU have some serious thinking to do:
No matter how much you love this dude, think about the rest of your life with him!!! If he finds "little" illegal schemes to get some fast cash in college, he will continue doing this until he gets caught, and trust me, he WILL get caught. Is this the kind of man you want to marry? Do you want to risk your future by being drawn in as an accessory to whatever he is (or will be) doing? It sounds as though you have your head screwed on a little straighter than he does........now you have to make a serious decision....can you walk (or better yet, run) away from someone who you KNOW in your heart of hearts is doing something wrong?
2007-03-07 12:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by carnivale4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young people think it only happens to the other guy and he is too smart to get caught. He is concentrating on the material things and may be ignoring his conscience. He might not even realize that his schemes are illegal or will hurt people. Dump him if he knows what harm he is causing as he will end up in prison.
He sounds like bad news. Sorry. I think you should dump him because you don't want to have a relationship that consists of weekly body cavity searches and conjugal visits with prison guards watching.
Good luck.
2007-03-07 12:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know love is blind, but here's the hard truth: He is a spoiled, dishonest person. He feels entitled to whatever he wants, and to him doing something wrong isn't wrong as long as he doesn't have to deal with punishment. He will always be irresponsible with money, a horrible character trait which his parents seem not to mind. What the hell kind of a GROWN MAN gets an allowance from his parents anyway?! (On top of the fact that they pay all his college expenses...) He's a loser, on his way to becomming a criminal. DUMP HIS SORRY BUTT AND NEVER LOOK BACK!
2007-03-07 12:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off I know how you feel. My ex was into doing stuff illegal that for months I did not know about. I put my foot down about it. He obviously did not love me enough to put my life in jeapordy for his stupity. If he is caught do not think for one minute they are not going to drag you in it because they will. A good lawyer or not if the facts states he is busted then that is it. If he gets into trouble and you are with him when he gets busted who is gonna bail you out of jail? Alot of his childish behavior is the high of not getting caught. That only esculates to more stupid things because he will get tired of what he is doing and move on to bigger things to get the adrinaline rush back. Why would you want to be with someone for the rest of your life or even have children with that does respect authority and obviously has no respect for you for hiding it and for putting your life in jeapordy? You know the saying at the wrong place at the wrong time well it has a great meaning behind it so be very careful if you stay with him.
2007-03-07 12:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by Rigssy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a little brother that fits this description 100%. He does the dumbest stuff, and thinks he is bulletproof to everything.
Some people are just that way. Hopefully it's a phase. I used to be pretty crazy. I've been taken to jail a couple-few times in High School/College. But for the last couple years, I've been happy just relaxing at home and playing Nintendo. I have a real job that isn't too stressful.
Maybe your boyfriend and my brother will grow out of it...or maybe they should team up, hehe.
2007-03-07 12:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I was married to a man who thinks he is untouchable for 7 years. He never pulled anything like that, but he cheated because "I can get away with it" is what he said. Men like that think women are stupid and unless he changes your opinion will never matter to him, you will always be under him instead of beside him. Oh and BTW why would you want to marry someone who is probably gonna go to prision??
2007-03-07 12:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by suzyalexisandgabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to rethink your entire relationship with him because I don't think he's given up his illegal money making ideas and I'm going to venture a guess here that you don't want to be caught up with that. I don't see him changing anytime soon, so you must make that touch decision.
2007-03-07 12:37:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your just wasting your time, he just simply won't listen...
let him take learn the lesson the hard way... since that's really things would turn out to be... no matter what you say, he won't simply change, because he never felt the pain and how hard it is inside the jail, let him suffer and realize what his doing in his life for the past year, that's the only way for him to appreciate things that future holds for him.
2007-03-07 12:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by *Pretty Pink* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because youre still with him. youre with him while he's doing this suspect behavior! to him...you're accepting it and nagging like a parental figure. leave him. maybe he'll stop for his own good. but you tell him that is the reason why you will not be with him.
peace.
2007-03-07 12:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋