i am an overly jealous wife... yet i am having an affair... do i love my husband?

Question

suicide is really tempting whenever it crosses my mind that my hubby might also be cheating on me..

Answer 1

I think this might be a good time for some counceling. As for your jeliousy, you know what they say- A spouce who looks under the bed has probably hidden there a few times themselves...

Answer 2

People that are honest, and sincere are trusting people. People that are lie, and cheat do not trust others. That is why it crosses your mind that your hubby might be having an affair.

How dare you say suicide crosses your mind when you think he might be cheating on you. To me it shows me that you are an extremely self centered person, and you are selfish.

I am not trying to hurt your feelings. I just want you to understand that you have to change your ways. Especially if you have children.

He must be a very devoted husband. You don't know if you love him. Well some people have a need to live dangerously, it is like a challenge to them.

You are walking a very fine line of ruining your life.

I do believe you love your husband, but you just take him for granted that he will always be there for you, and he is not a challenge. Dearie, you have to grow up. FAST.

HOPE I HELPED YOU UNDERSTAND YOURSELF.

I noticed that other people are telling you to stop what you are doing, and tell him the truth. YOU WILL ACCOMPLISH NOTHING BY TELLING HIM THE TRUTH, EXCEPT HURT YOUR MARRAIGE, AND FEEL LESS GUILTY. JUST STOP YOUR AFFAIR. KEEP THE TRUTH TO YOURSELF.

Answer 3

First of all cheating is wrong you never play with anyone head or heart, I seen people getting killed over stuff like that, and the reason would be a crime a passion.

If you are cheating chances are you shouldn't be with him, you probably shouldn't of ended the relationship before you cheated because you would not want him to do it you would you.

Another thing is I think you probably thinking he is cheating on you because of you own guilt, and chances are he's probably not cheating at all.

You need to talk to your husband get into marriage counseling if he willing to work with you through this after you tell him, and if he is willing to work with you though this, tell him what exact voids it was that he was not fillling, so you two can work on it, so you don't cheat again, that's if he willing to work with you on it.

And also if your thinking about suicide go and see your doctor right away so they can help you with this, and I just hope you two don't have no kids together because if you commit suicide then they will seriously be affected by this.

I know your probably feeling Suicide is your only option but its NOT, see your doctor right away and get into councling fast, good luck to you!

Answer 4

OK I'm sorry but that's messed up you are so wrong for cheating that is one of the worst things in my opinion that you can ever do and I'm sorry but if you dont tell your husband i hope he finds out cus that is so wrong

and also i think the reason you feel so jealous is cus you know you can cheat and not tell your husband so you automatically think he can do that to which is messed go talk to your husband and beg for forgiveness

and i promise you that if you tell him what is going on it will be really hard at first but if you stick it out those feelings or hurting yourself will go away you also might want to go talk to a doctor about those feelings k babe good luck you can get through this

Answer 5

You can't possibly love someone if you are seeking another person's attention. That isn't love, that's having your cake and eating it too. As far as your feeling of anger about the thought of him cheating, that is no more than your mental requirement of possession. You look at him as something that belongs to you. It's okay if you don't want to use him to satisfy your intimate cravings, but you won't allow anyone else to have him either. You need to address the real reason why you want him around(financial security, an image that you are a happy married couple, to keep respect of family, to avoid being alone when your other man isn't with you?). You need to realize that if these feelings of anger about him being unfaithful are so overpowering, what do you think it would do to him if he knew what you were doing? Treat everyone as you would want to be treated! If you don't remain committed to him and him only, then be a respectable woman and divorce him. You would expect no less honesty from him.

Answer 6

WOW, you have some major problems. First, you need to stop the affair. Do unto others as you would have done to you. How can you be jealous when your the one having the affair. You want your cake and eat it too. Well it doesn't work that way. If he finds out, he will be hurt, and angry. Maybe even call off the marriage. I wouldn't blame him for a second either. Smarten up there girl, before you loose everything.

Answer 7

This is a bit tricky.. The reason that some women are having are having affairs is because of the mere fact that they feel neglected in some way or another or some of them are just plain outright greedy. I don't know which category you may fall under. But take the time and ask yourself the reason that you are doing this. I hate to hear some women say that they are doing this because he's doing it to them... that makes no sense because you are not hurting and degrading no one but yourself. If you think that the man is cheating there are various ways of finding that out without hurting yourself like that. For example a man leave the house he smells like irish spring soap but when he returns he smells like jergens soap. You be your own detective and investigate but don't cheat on him because he's doing that to you. And if he's cheating, you need to move on with your life because you deserve much better than that!!! Get out of that... nobody can help you with this one but you. You need further assistance you can hit me up at [e-mail] .

Answer 8

Doesn't feel so good now does it? What ever the case maybe you think you love your husband. The meaning of love is;

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Yet you're sleeping with another man, but claim to love your husband. You & your husband need to get into couseling or something, before things really get out of hand.

Answer 9

Killing yourself is not the way out. I think perhaps you should seek some type of professional assitance at this point. You probably have become more jealous because of the fact that you have been cheating on him.. that typically tends to happen. there is infedelity in a relationship. Keep your head up.

Answer 10

its you that is jealous because you alrready know what you are doing. You know how it happens and where it can do and therefor you are afraid. Im taking a class right now about this sort of thing. People who are jealous or mad it is becaus edeep down inside they are hurt and they use anger to cover them selves up. Your jealousy is bacause you know what lines you have crossed and now you may going through the process that you are already doing to your husband

Answer 11

I had an overly jealous wife, yet I was faithful. Only you can say if you love your husband....he may not "light your fire" so your looking to another man for sex.

If you love your husband, stop the affair and help him to "ring your bell" after all we are only men.