Does anyone find this ironic?

Question

That growing kids are always told not to care what others think of them and to just ignore people who tease them. Then they grow up and it's all about what others think of you and how you present yourself. Wether or ot not it is fair doesn't matter, a person hiring for a job is going to judge partly by how you dress and act, not just by how qualified you are.

Answer 1

Well, I think what parents are trying to teach their children is not to take anything personally that includes a racist, rude, or judgemental remark that is intended only to hurt someone elses feelings. There is a difference, there, because this you should definitely not take to heart, even as an adult. Some people are just rude and that's all there is to it. Children need to learn to not think that they are wrong for having the personality that they do, or look the way they do. If a child doesn't have these teachings, they will live a life constantly trying to change themselves to please others, and be left alone when they find out that they can't, because this is impossible. As far as your attitude and the way you dress, as children get older, they will learn from experience that your attitude definitely plays a role in how satisfying their relationships are. If they have a selfish and angry and rude attitude, they will find that they will not have many friends. If they have a generous and respectful attitude, they will in turn receive generosity and respect.Any good parent will include this in their child's upbringing as well. As far as dress code, this really can only say so much about the person. But as adults we learn the power of first impressions. If you dress nice to a job interview, the interviewer will take into consideration that you took the time to look nice, and this says alot about someones character. If you dress sloppy for an interview, it is taken that you do not take the time to complete things thoroughly, but would rather say "Well, this is good enough!" and go with that. They should learn that dress doesn't say much about the person who is actually on the inside, and they should never judge people for their dress, but in some situations a first impression is important, because this may be the only impression they will get of you, so you better make it a good one! They will learn this over time. But if they get the job they can be confident that it is their attitude that is going to take them farther in the long run.

Answer 2

For a high paying job and some lower paying jobs as well, you are correct.

The word "tease" at that point could have been a parent or loved one not looking at the pig picture as well as the child who communicated he/she was being "teased" aka criticized. There is a huge difference between someone saying something to a person and someone bullying. Bullying is act of looking for an innocent human punching bag and following through with it verbally and/or physically. Too many people these days are scapegoating their weakness off to those that mean well by re-directing the subject away from having to examine themselves. I suppose that could be a way of controlling their life into an isolated world of perfectly not having to live to their fullest potential.

Answer 3

Not ironic just reality.

Kids are told "not to care" when they run home crying and saying, "so and so said I was stupid". Hence, sticks and stones and don't care when a moron calls you a moron.

As a grown up there are minimum levels of behavior and dress expected of you (there are as kids too). And when interviewing it is all about how the company views their customers reaction to the employees. It's all about the bucks! And it has to be, or the company wouldn't be around for very long if they didn't care if their customers liked their employees or not.

Answer 4

I think the key is to teach children to always do their best, respect themselves, take good care of themselves and to be a unique individual. I think you have to teach them that what others think of you isn't who you are, but to be confidant in who they are and the values they know. It's true that as we go into the job market we are judged by others, but it's also important to be confidant in who you are as a person so you don't get eaten alive in the business world. Raising children is complicated to say the least.

Answer 5

I don't think I would tell my kids to ignore teasing. It's our responsibility to teach children to handle criticism in a way that is not harmful to their development or to the way they will interact with people in the future.
You have to teach kids that not everyone is going to like them, and they are not going to like everyone. It's just that simple. But we can handle situations with people we dislike by still treating them with the same kindness, dignity and respect that we give our closest friends.
If that doesn't work, then you have to teach your kids how to throw a mean left hook at the biggest bully. And make it a good one or it will be your last.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

It is definately ironic, I would still be true to myself and not go out of my comfort zone. Why would you want to be phony? But that's the way it is in the big leagues. Dumb!

Answer 8

I agree with Gretta...

Answer 9

yeah, that is very ironic....lol

Answer 10

Thanks to the media, thanks :)