How do you know when the time is right to ask for her hand in marriage?

Question

How long will you wait to ask someone to marry you? Say you've been in a relationship for 7 years, do you think it was about time the question was asked! They know marriage is welcome, they claim they're not afraid of commitment so darn it what's the hold up!!??

Answer 1

All i have to say is woman can ask too these days you know. It is the 21st Century you know.

O and there is no date that ANYONE can say you should be married. It has to be the right thing to do... for sum that day will never come.

Answer 2

It has to do with the percentage of failed marriages everyone sees and the fear of not being able to beat the odds. No matter how much you love each other, there may be enough divorces in both your familys or mutual friends to warrant some apprehension on his part. It could also be he was burned so badly in his past that he is afraid to take a chance on going through that pain again. Although seven years is a long period of time, I have a best friend that finally decided to marry his girlfriend this year after a 7 1/2 year relationship due to him going through a horrible marriage and divorce 24 years ago. Some people don't get over things as easily as others - mental scars do have a long range impact. If you love him and want him you'll want him to make that commitment when he is sure there are no doubts not because you press him into it. If you are tired of waiting then discuss with him what he expects you to do. Tell him you are ready for a firm and binding commitment so you can feel comfortable in being the wife you want to be. Also remember that if you are already performing the wifely duties for him, he won't be as apt to take that next step.

Answer 3

7 years? What's this guy waiting for, Christmas? If you had been living together that long, you would have been married by common law. This is going to sound harsh, but barring any absolutely absurd circumstances, I'm of the opinion that if this guy really had no commitment issues and wanted to marry you, he would have asked you by now. Have you read "He's Just Not That Into You", there's a chapter entitled "He's Just Not That Into You If He Doesn't Want to Marry You", which pretty much says that if he really wanted to marry you, he would...this guy is just stringing you along untill he finds something better. Don't you think you deserve more than that? Stop wasting your time with a relationship that's going nowhere, count your losses and get back in the game and find a guy that does want to marry you, good luck!