my lil sister goes in moday march 12th for her abortion. My mom or grand ma doesnt know if they find out they are going to flip out or maybe put her out. but i'm trying to convince her not to go through with it. she can keep her child and i will watch the baby when its born i will try to help her to the best of my ability. I told her no matter hw you look at it abortion is murder. she is 18 yrs old and a senior. she says she don't want to go to prom with a big belly, and she wants to were cute clothes. and she got a schlorship to east west.
But is there any way i can persuade her to keep it.
her boyfriend is 20 and he wants her to keep it. he says he will be there.
2007-03-07 03:35:40 · 17 answers · asked by shay 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Tell her she is stupid because the baby shouldn't be punished for her mistakes. IT'S MURDER.........
2007-03-07 03:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by Me_Myself_&_I 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
As the big sister yes you should be support to your sister but you should also consider her feelings as well. Your sister has many goals and achievements to accomplish and must include the position of the situation that now has arose. The decision is totally up to her and the father and because she is focused only on only her: That point needs to be made not attacked at her. Telling her there's help with the unborn child isn't enough. I think the fear she has of the mom and grandmother, the baby getting in the way of school, and her wants of wanting to be a teen and doing teen has really ran her into a corner.I really feel at this time she is no longer in persuade mode. I can't say which way is right or wrong, but what I can say is: God answers prayers and if u do not know him now is a good time for you to get to know him because March 12 isn't far and God is always on time. I can assure you once u put the situation in his hands and leave it there when the time comes he will take care of it even if it is not in your favor because God knows best!!!!!!!!
2007-03-07 04:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.Tricey 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The decision is of course in your sister's realm. To use the president's term, she is the "decider". As repugnant as abortion may be, it is important that no matter what her decision is you continue to love her and help her. To offer her to watch the child is admirable, but perhaps not realistic. She has a life of her own, as do you. You have to be certain that you could help her with that. Ultimately, it is her decision that she will make regardless of your feelings. Don't tire of emphasizing to her the mistake that she is making, although I would imagine she may have trouble understanding that as she is more concerned about her upcoming prom, which in the scheme of things is really not all that important. Good luck.
2007-03-07 03:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant change her mind. You should resepect her decision. You shoud insted tell her all of her options and be supportive of what ever one she picks. Keeping it, abortion and adoption. Theres an open-adoption where she can still have contact with the family that adopts the baby. Abortion is not murder. No matter what you believe by deffanition and legality its not murder. Murder is the malitious killing of a living breathing human being by another. 1. a fetus/embryo is not a living breathing human being
2. abortion is not malitious. I highly doubt any woman having an abortion is doing so out of spite for an embryo/fetus.
2007-03-07 03:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but this is her body, and her choice. She is allowed to make it, and if she chooses to abort, it's a decision she will have to live with.
On the other hand, if she isn't ready to be a parent, why would you force this on her? She has a lot of plans right now, including continuing her education. Would you rather she be an un-wed mother on welfare because she dropped out of school?
If she is meant to continue with this pregnancy, she will. But that is between her, her body, and whatever higher power/being she believes in. If you try to argue the point and force her into keeping this baby, she may resent you right along with the baby.
2007-03-07 03:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by Paula S 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
That's tough has she ever seen what they do during the procedure?
Maybe you should let her know that, once she does have an abortion there is no turning back. It is done. She needs to ask herself what would life be like if your mother had gotten rid of her.
She also needs to step up and take responsebility for her actions. Unprotected sex. She needs to remember that you complete college with a child. And no that everything happens for a reason.I think that you two should sit down and tell your parents what is going on maybe they will ease her mind and help her make the right decision.
I say the two of you because she will need your soppurt when she tell them. And she needs to let them see how responsible she is and that shes is not just looking for a quick out.
Good luck.
2007-03-07 03:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by ~Skittles~ 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
well, I am PRO-LIFE 100%! I do NOT believe in abortion under any circumstances!
Life begins at conception. Murder is Murder. period.
ok, to maybe help convince your little sister ...
there is a video on the internet of an abortion being preformed on a baby boy. The baby is crying and SCREAMING .. begging for his life, and the doctor rips his legs off!
Did you know (and might want to pass along to your sister) that when a baby (in the womb) hears its mothers voice .. its heartbeat slows down because it feels so safe and secure knowing its mother is there.
Can you imagine .. the LAST thing that baby hears is his mothers voice making him feel so safe and secure as he kicks and plays in the womb .. and then to know, the LAST thing out of his mothers mouth is her giving the doctor the ok to KILL HIM! to painfully kill that innocient baby. That baby that loves its mother so much .. that baby that feels so safe and secure .. who has never done anything wrong in his short little life. He is living, playing .. "breathing" in there. He has a heart, a soul, EVERYTHING you and I have! Everything she has! and she wants to kill him?
she really needs to see that video.
Life begins at conception .. tell her to read the bible.
Please stop her from killing that baby.
God bless!
2007-03-07 04:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
nicely, right this is the element. maximum christians i be attentive to do no longer consider abortions. it is advantageous on account that it is their very own opinion. I do whether have a situation with the idiots that stand outdoors abortion clinics with their signs and warning signs and telling people they're going to hell. additionally, maximum christians i be attentive to, are against intercourse training and start administration. Hell, my coverage agency covers Viagra yet no longer start administration pills? So enable me get this promptly. you will thankfully conceal a guy having the flexibility to get a ***** yet whilst i do no longer pick to have a toddler and consider out to do the in charge element you're making me pay out of pocket for the prescription? incorrect good judgment there huh? As to intercourse-ed, somewhat of letting your little ones learn by skill of somebody a thank you to keep away from being pregnant and being taught to apply secure practices alongside with abstinence, you ***** till you have in simple terms your way with the abstinence in basic terms application that has been shown to no longer artwork. whether i'm fortunate sufficient to have coverage conceal start administration, whilst i pass to a pharmacy to have it filled, there is likewise a danger that my pharmacist won't fill it. be attentive to why? because of the fact he thinks its homicide. the interior maximum medical suggestions it is between me and my customary practitioner and this guy has the call to choose me because of the fact of HIS ideals? Unreal. So till you psycho christans can recover from your "worry" of start administration and intercourse-ed and speaking on your little ones approximately intercourse somewhat of hiding from it, abortion isn't likely everywhere.
2016-11-23 13:15:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To speak plainly, it sounds like she is focusing on only herself. In which case, it may work to point out to her how it will affect her. She may also be ignorant of how 'babyish' the baby is. She may think "It's just a blob of tissue. It's doesn't count. It doesn't matter."
I would ask her to have an ultrasound before she has the abortion so that she can make a fully informed decision. Offer to pay for it, if you can or go to crisis pregnancy center that offers them for free. Maybe if she sees the baby, the impact of her decision and what she is doing may also come home to her.
Abortion is not something like taking a pill for a headache which just goes away.
Many, many women suffer from a form of post-traumatic syndrome in which they have nightmares, hallucinations of babies crying, feeling of crushing guilt, etc.
To date, it will be the most important decision of her life. Clearly, she doesn't understand the impact or the ramifications of what she is proposing to do.
2007-03-07 03:46:56 · answer #9 · answered by kittyrat234b 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Tell her lovingly that she can also give the baby up for adoption. Abortion seems like a great option at the time but the long term consequences can be overwhelmng. I had one my senior year and have regretted what I have done. Abortion can lead to depression, heavy drinking, suicidal thoughts among other things. It hurts, physically as well. I will be praying that she changes her mind!
2007-03-07 03:43:42 · answer #10 · answered by sle4life 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
this is her decision to make, not yours. you may not agree with it, but she has the right to choose her own path.
on another note, if she's more worried about her prom dress than the fact that she's carrying a living being, then she is obviously not ready to be a mother.
2007-03-07 03:49:45 · answer #11 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋