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2007-03-07 03:28:04 · 5 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The description of the sociopathic personality -- aka psychopathic -- is taken straight from Hare, a Canadian who is the #1 expert in the matter. I recognised it after reading the first 1 1/2 points.
If you want to keep it simpler, the core idea here is to notice, and steer clear of, a person who has two basic beliefs - 1) The only person I care about is me -- any appearance to the contrary is a mask; and 2) the only question that matters about other people is "what can I get out of them?".
There's no such thing as "the truth" in psychology, all interpretation of people is in part socially constructed. For example, "karma" (my reality and that of most Easterners) is perceived by Western scientists through the lens of "genetic" influence. Neither view is true/false, they're different socially constructed lenses.
I don't share Hare's black and white thinking about sociopathy, but the concept "sociopath" has use value in understanding people and certainly some people more-or-less fit the pattern outlined in the summary. (Some more, some less.)
The second major idea in the article is that the person who attracts a sociopath as a partner / prospective partner is someone who loves to rescue and who believes they are a victim. I haven't seen any research on this, but it looks credible. Many people seem to dance (or be thrown) around what is called the "drama triangle" of rescuer/victim/persecutor. A sociopath may ape any of these roles for self-perceived personal advantage but for them they are all masks, their reality is desire for egocentred gain.
The third and last idea here is - you can change your way of dating. Learn from your mistakes! You bet. Be aware of the slippery slope into being manipulated and consciously choose differently.
Myself, I rebel against that author's particular way of changing with what looks like glossy soft-sell self-help manuals and slick smooth marketing reminiscent of NLP. But the principle behind it has my "yes".
2007-03-07 19:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by MBK 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The long story does not seem to be very realistic although it may be true in certain aspects. I do not think one can be so much pessimistic in his/her selection/ The development of human body with age is such that all such things can not be observed totally during a particular age segment. All one can ask for is positive and true response from the other side.
2007-03-15 01:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by sb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we are human and we get high on the most peculiar things in life.
But if you are attracted to these guys, you suddenly need help? thats utter psychologist propaganda.
You need to change your mind. You need to know what you want in a relationship. That's it. Stick to it and somehow it'll surround you in an aura and only those who can fulfill it, will approach you.
Thats what I think.
2007-03-15 01:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is hard to know for sure but...
GOD THEY MET MY EX
Oh and my boyfriend.
Darn it, why do I always pick the sociopaths?
I think it's breaking out of the cycle. If we give of low self esteem vibes, with sympathy and forgiveness, then those types will keep coming our way.
2007-03-11 04:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by Deceptive Reality 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it looked to long and boring to read... sorry
2007-03-08 05:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by Laura H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋