question to black women, I would like your opinion.?

Question

there is a black woman at uni that I really like, she is not the first black woman that I like, but she is the first black woman I am interest in; so I was wondering about how do you feel when a white boy is interrested/like you? (not that I am being some kind of racist)

I bealive that the diference in social groups does change our viewing towards other people from other social groups, in some way at least. (by the way, I am Latino)

also I asked an old woman, who is a friend of mine from work , she is caribean black; well lets just say that she did not agree of the thought of her daughter going out with a white boy.

Answer 1

From personal experience, when my boyfriend made it clear he wanted to go out with me, admittedly, I was hesitant because I had heard negatvie things about bw/wm relationships, plus I had just got out of a bad relationship. But I gave him my number anyway. After that, he was pretty transparent in his motives; he called me a couple of times of day, he was very attentive too, and the thing I liked most, when we did go out, he didn't seem to be conscious of the negative vibes we seemed to get; if he was, he did a damned good job of hiding it.

So, I'd say, the most important thing is to be yourself. If she hasn't been in a interracial relationship before, she may distrust your motives, so you should be sincere, so she won't think you're "experimenting" or something.

I'm trying to explain it from the way I felt, but no 2 women are the same, so I hope that helped, somewhat. Good luck. =)

Answer 2

I think for every relationship, there are factors which determine success or failure. I don't believe that race should be one of them, if the people involved are sincere.

Of course, I realise that it is important - to some extent, to consider the other persons background when going into a relationship, but I also think that that should only be done to make things easier. You know, easier isn't always better, as I've learnt these past few years.

Personally, as a black girl, this is my opinion: I had never found a person from another race attractive, until I met this white guy at uni. We got very close and everything, but I couldn't commit to him only because I didn't want to be in trouble with my parents, so I let him go. I still think of him, and some times, I think of the possibilities, if that hadn't happened. That's not saying I'm miserable because of that. I'm with someone now, and though I know my parents won't approve of him (at least, in the beginning), Ive realised that you cant always compromise on your happiness.

All this is only coming to one thing. You asked my opinion, I gave it to you, but its really, only up to you and the lady. If you don't make your move, you ll never know.

I hope this was abit helpful and I wish you good luck.

Answer 3

The more you have exposure to different types of peoples the more open minded you are going to be. I am carribean black, and some black mothers or fathers would not like to see their children dating caucasians. Others dont care about race, they are more into the happiness and welfare of their children.

Me personally, have had people of many different races- white, black, asian, hispanic, arab, blah blah, attracted to me. If a white male was interested in me, I would treat him like every other male Ive come up against...to me a male is a male. We'd talk on the phone, go out, etc..and if things seem cool, we'd date.

If the woman that youre interested in is not into the whole race thing, but more into character, then you have nothing to worry about. If you're pursuing her, then I hope all works out for you.

Answer 4

I dated a white guy for a while. It was really hard because I caught a lot of flack from my friends and just other Black people. I couldn't take the pressure and I caved and dissolved the relationship. I was young at the time though and if something like that happened now, I could handle it much better.

I dated a guy from Bolivia once and everyone loved him. He and my mother still communicate occasionally. I guess it depends on her attitude, how she was raised and her level of maturity. Good luck!

Answer 5

I've been dating a white guy for almost a year. He treats me like a queen and I love him dearly. Awww...my boo. Hee hee. Sorry, got lost in thought. Anyway...

Do not approach her with, "Hey, do you like white guys?" or "Hey, I like black girls!" Do not mention race when approaching her! Approach her as you would any other girl. I believe she'd appreciate it if you treated her as a woman and not a "black woman". Labels only tear us further apart.

Not all black people think alike. Some approve of interracial relationships, others don't. I wouldn't straight up ask her this, but once she realizes that you like her, you'll probably find out then.

Good luck to you, sir!

Answer 6

Hmmm....the advice the woman from the Caribbean gave you is interesting since many islands have absolutely NO problem with interacial couplings...much different than the US [although the US is getting much better]

Latinos are viewed by Blacks in different ways. Many Blacks consider them 'people of color' - therefore not much different - few classify them as white......

Those who are native to Spain, however ARE often classified as Caucasian unless more of the 'Moorish' ancestry

I'd say approach her in a friendly manner and suggest lunch one day...see how she responds and then take it from there.

Answer 7

I personally don't have a problem dating people outside of my race. I mean, its silly if we can't see past the color of someone's skin. Sure, there may be social ramifications and odd looks from strangers but so what? I don't live my life for other's approval.

If you like her, and she likes you, than this is all that matters. I am African American (although I am multi-racial), and I have a white friend that I am keenly interested in, and he is simply one of the greatest treasures I have found.

So go for it, and have fun!

Answer 8

I know your question was aimed at back women and not white blokes, but just for the record, if boy likes girl and girl likes boy, then what does the rest matter? Go for it. Everyone will have to get used to the idea.

BTW. For the record, I didn't think your question was racist

Answer 9

I'd be flattered but I probably wouldn't mess with him even if I thought he was drop-dead gorgeous and a good, compatible guy for me

I just don't think it's worth the hassle

Answer 10

We are all different. Some will NEVER date outside the race and some ONLY date outside it. Get to know her. If you click and she's not bent on race, it'll work.

There really is no one answer. It all depends on HER personal socialization.