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I'm pregnant about 19 week and My boyfriend just broke up with me when he found out we are having a baby girl, what up with that? Why do guyz care what gender the baby is? I'm young and I dont know if I can do this without him by my side. I would never give my baby up for adoption but i just dont know if i will be able to do it with him gone. what should i do?

2007-03-07 03:03:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

abortion is never anoption, i do not believe in it and i cant give her up for adoption cause i love her and i want her more than anything.

2007-03-07 03:16:59 · update #1

12 answers

Don’t stress or worry over this, it isn’t good for you or your baby. Some guyz are jerks and there is nothing you can do to change that. He probley wanted a boy to carry on the last name and to have something in common with, he probley feels as if a daughter can bring nothing good to him. Thats a shitty reason and very childish. You don’t need a man/boy to help you raise a child, I raised my daughter alone for 2 years before her father realized how stupid he was and that he loved us and wanted to be a family. Some men never realize this, and they never want anything to do with their child. Let him go, it’s hard to do and I know you will have a hard time doing it but it’s for your own good. If he cant except that he helped you make that baby girl than leave him behind. You can do it if you stay strong and do it for yourself and your baby, your age has nothing to do with it. One day you will find a wonderful man who will except you and your baby, there are some great guys out there and you cant let what one did ruin it for the rest. Keep your head up, smile and enjoy your pregnancy. Find a friend or family member to talk to, Let your feelings out. Good Luck!! And Congrats on the baby girl!!

2007-03-07 03:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by BaBy KiSsEs!! 3 · 2 0

You can defy the odds, you can be a great mom even without a guy. Get your head on straight, get some family and friends to be there for you emotionally, your not the first young mom to struggle while the dad was being stupid somewhere else. Yes it sucks, yes it's not fair, yes it is tough. Having this idiot by your side doesn't seem like it would have been much help anyways if he can just up and go because it will be a girl, hell its his body that decides the sex of the baby so forget him, he is obviously a loser. If giving up the baby for adoption is what you need to do, than your support group of family and friends can help you go through that ordeal, there are plenty of people out there that can't have children that would be wonderful parents if only given the chance. Good luck with your decision. I had my son at 18, by myself, I am now 30, I was the best mom I could be for him even being so young. I raised a wonderful young man so far.

2007-03-07 11:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by chefck26 4 · 1 0

Sorry hun he was just looking for the door he isn't mature enough to be a parent and you are better off without a man like that in any situation anyway. Consider carefully what you want to do you can still abort, put up for adoption or raise her on your own. Many moms have raised kids on there own and it has been fine. Yes there is more work but with programs like Job Corps you can have a residence a job and when you graduate assistance in getting off to the right start. Many religious groups offer help as well as do many women's centers - You are not alone! Remember you have choices and if you have a good relationship with your parents see if they can offer any assistance. Good Luck!

2007-03-07 11:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 2 0

first off...dont let a "man" cause this much stress in your life. especially since you are pregnant. you dont need it right now. you need to focus on keeping yourself healthy and sane.

dont automatically doubt yourself either!! i too, was young with my first child. younger than most people would have liked to see me pregnant at. and very VERY alone.

you can do it as long as you surround yourself with supportive (and POSTIVE) friends and family. it makes all the difference in the world. id be lost without my friends and family.

and dont worry that your daughter will grow up without a father. obviously (not trying to bash your ex) he wasnt mature enough, and may never be mature enough. only time will tell.

my daughter is fine. she has a loving grandfather who is the best male role-model she could ever ask for. she is now 3 and a half and never asks WHY she doesnt have a daddy. she knows she doesnt have one, but she also knows she is loved and that...THAT is all that matters.

good luck and god bless.

:::added details:::

i also think what USC chick said above is extremely rude, inconsiderate, and innapropriate. those are the type of people you should stear clear of.

i have raised my child ON MY OWN from day one. yes, i have support from my family, but i pay all my bills. i have a full time job. ive had a full time job for 9 years. ive never been on welfare. yes, my daughter's "donor" is a deadbeat, but she is not suffering from this. do you realize how many children are raised by one parent?! what she is basically saying is that putting your children in daycare is a horrible thing to do. my daughter started daycare when she was 2 and has benefited from every moment there. that is how children learn social skills and respect.

i could go on and on, but i wont. sorry for the outrage, but what she is implying is ridiculous and should be ignored.

again, good luck and may GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR CHILD.

2007-03-07 11:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I would talk to your doctor about resources that are available for you to help you through this pregnancy. There are lots available nowadays for single moms. Your boyfriend sounds like he is not supportive of you since ultimately, sex of the child should not matter. It is probably his excuse for running away from responsibility which a lot of guys tend to do at this age. You are right, you are young. It seems bleak right now for you. But, you do not need someone like this by your side. It might be difficult for you to see this right now, but he sounds like more trouble than anything else. It will be a difficult road to travel...but with help from community resources, from friends and family, it is possible if you are really wanting this child. Good luck to you!

2007-03-07 11:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

If you don't think you can do it on your own, then I would say you should talk to a counselor and really consider adoption. They can help you and talk with you about the options that you do have available. Hopefully your family/friends will be there to help you and support you even if the guy is a jerk! Better off without him.

2007-03-07 11:16:09 · answer #6 · answered by First Time Momma 7/26/07 3 · 0 0

You should be glad that he left!! Any man that will only love a child if it's a certain gender is NOT a real man! You CAN do this without him...and if you don't think you can, adoption is a wonderful option.

It will be better for your little girl not to have such a horrible father around!! What a JERK!

2007-03-07 11:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by LittleRoo 4 · 5 0

Oh my! Any man that is a coward enough to walk out because of the sex of your baby is DEFINITELY NOT WORTH IT! Be strong for your baby. She will reward you a lot. I have 2 baby girls! I LOVE them so much, and I wouldn't want my life any other way. You will make it through this!
Hope your ex realizes that he is going to be paying child support!

Honey, he isn't worth it. Your true love is still out there waiting for you.

2007-03-07 11:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by Shealynn B 1 · 1 0

got to go with little roo reply hun, what a waste of space this bloke is.

And darling you CAN DO THIS...........my ex left me with a 13 month old and with me five months pregnant with my daughter and hard YES......impossible NO.......

With regards to what do you do now, are you in touch with your parents, what is your living situation, etc these all play into giving you a solid reply.

Do you have medical insurance, are you getting the proper care you need and will you still be able to get it if it was HIS insurance, are you in touch with his family, what do they say about all this.

There was an old saying that ONLY real men had baby girls, OBVIOUSLY not in this case eh..............glad he showed his **** now so you dont waste any more emotion and effort on him.

Take care and let us know what else happens.........

2007-03-07 11:15:22 · answer #9 · answered by candy g 7 · 0 0

What an a-hole for creating this stress for you. Be strong, there are support groups out there that can give you moral support, talk to your health nurse or community centre they should be able to link you up. Be strong for your baby girl. You dont need a loser man in your life like you had.

2007-03-07 11:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by redneckgirl 4 · 1 0

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