Whats going through her mind? Would you suggest to go back and talk things out? Thanks?

Question

I just dont get it. She broke up with me because she felt that she wasn't ready for another relationship and that she has to focus with college. I respected her decision

We have class together. She has been ignoring for the first two weeks then started talking again. Somehow, I feel like she doesn't respect me. Everytime she would always talk to our friend and leave me out of the conversation. Even when we would do work together, she would only come to me when she has to

Recently she started being cold again and I got tired of it so i ignored her for that day. she asked me what was wrong and I confronted her about it and that I didnt care anymore. she got defensive and now we dont really talk. She did apologize about about her behaviour and treatment online though, and thats about it.

She is not the type that likes to play games but is somewhat shy and not expressive. I know she isnt a bad person.

My question is.. Whats going through her mind? Should I go back and talk to her and "try" to make things work?

Answer 1

I would not try and go back and talk things out--you already explained to her your feelings on how she is treating you. It seems that she is not respecting you by being cold and leaving you out of conversations--that is not someone you want to have as a friend (or girlfriend for that matter). She also should have given you enough respect to apologize in PERSON, or at least on the phone. Online is the coward's way out. You deserve better friends than that. I'm not saying she is a bad person, but her actions are not the greatest and maybe time away from her will show her what a great person she threw away. Then let her come to YOU and try and talk things out. If she doesn't it wasn't meant to be and it's less stress for you. Good luck!!

Answer 2

From what you said...maybe she was ignoring you b/c she doesn't know what to say to you...i mean she did break up with you...
I know from personal experience it is always awkward to break up with someone and then have to work with them in a group...or whatever...
I think being she did apologize to you, even if it was online, you should talk to her...b/c obviously shes not the type that is spontaneous and take a chance at talking with you...
You need to sit down with her and just explain how you feel...about everything...instead of posting questions about this on here lol...
Good Luck : )

Answer 3

Im sure she's a good person, but it sounds like she doesnt know how to deal with something you may have done to her. Im embarrassed to say, but i've done this myself. I think she feels trapped between "I want to go back with him!" and "Why did he do this to me?" I also think she may have ended the realtionship with you just to see how much you cared about her and that when she suggested ending the relationship you were to "quick" to answer "ok!", without a problem. She was probably just testing you.... but now she wants you back. We girls are so like that! Hate it!