still love him very much too. I dont know what to do. My ex and I ended it because of abuse he gave me verbally, but I have missed him and hadnt dated because of it, I thought I was over him but am not. I do love my new guy and he treats me like a king, why do I still love my ex?
2007-03-07 02:54:00 · 12 answers · asked by just me 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are over him -it is just a rush of feelings most people find themselves in situations like this once or twice in life.
If you are intelligent and care about your new bf as much as you claim too you will be glad that you can now look back and have good feelings about the other guy yet you will not ruin this new relationship.
If you are foolish you will dwell on it and make a mistake and sleep with your ex...
The choice is yours and it is very simple do you want to choose to be foolish or choose to be intelligent?
2007-03-07 03:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most likely reason you still love your ex is because you don't think you are worthy of anything better. That is something about yourself that you will have to work on.
Stay away from the guy. There is a reason an ex is an ex and you've at least acknowledged why.
2007-03-07 11:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look Honey
I know its hard I've been in your position before but what you need to know is that if he verbally abuse you before, what makes you think he wont do it again. Just don't call him or have him call you. And stay with the one you got, because a man that will treat you like a King is rare but a man that will treat you like crap are more common then then you think.
Good Luck honey
2007-03-07 12:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you run into an ex like that you automatically start thinking of the good ole days..BUT think it didn't work out for a reason and more than likely won't work out again. You could be chancing losing the new bf that treats you like a KING!!
2007-03-07 14:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really can't say why you still love your ex. I am not a psychotherapist but it sounds like a codependency issue. If he verbally abused you like you say, be thankful you're out of there because I've heard stories where it escalated to physical abuse.
Also, be thankful for the new man in your life and the love you have for him.
Good luck.
2007-03-07 11:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by jasgallo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just treaing you better now because he has lost you. If your new BF is as good as you say, put the past in the past. You can tell your ex you still like him but its over. I would agree that he probably is still the same and if given the chance, would treat you just like he did before . Sounds to me like he used that as a form of control over you. My advice, stick with the new guy and be glad you have him!
2007-03-07 11:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by Brent W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you think you wouldn't still love your ex. I still love everyone I've ever fallen in love with.
I have two exs I run into at my dojo, all the time. It's brutally difficult. I broke up with them because of emotional abuse. I still miss them terribly. Being I still love them, I hope all goes well for them and hope they stay together.
2007-03-07 11:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still love him because you truly loved him. Even thought the verbal abuse, you probably wanted to be with him, but just couldn't stand the pain. Its ok to still love him. But stay with your new beau and try something new.
2007-03-07 11:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by {{...Ladi...}} 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me just say that I wouldn't presume to make a decision for you, but if you get back with your ex you'll be right back where you started. Remember why the relationship ended and ask yourself if you want to go through that again.
2007-03-07 11:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by collegedebt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you know the right thing to do. You need to remember why you ended it with your ex. I am willing to bet that he hasn't changed; it seems to me that people don't change much.
You love your current BF; and you say he treats you like a king. Why would you give that up?
2007-03-07 10:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by Tikhacoffee/MisterMoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋