Any recommendations about what I should do before I let her know today when I get home. Any advice from any other men that have been through this would be great.
2007-03-07 02:42:37 · 6 answers · asked by MetalHeart 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make copies of all bank documents!
2007-03-07 03:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do everything possible to save the marriage.
If you are the perfect husband, and she doesn't respond to your love and breaks her vows, then at least you can say that you gave the marriage an honest effort and she wouldn't or couldn't step up and be a great partner.
Frankly, until you both have attended counseling and the counselor says you are doing great on your tasks but your wife is not doing what he assigns her to do, you really don't have cause to divorce.
Divorcing because you are unhappy is a bad idea. Divorcing because your partner will not be a partner, and that is verified by an impartial expert will save you from much guilt down the road.
You will probably be a better person as well.
2007-03-07 10:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That has to be the single saddest post I have seen today. No pun intended on the "single" thing. Have you tried all of your alternatives? I hope you don't go through with it, but if you do. BE KIND. She probably has some clue this is coming and you should protect her as much as you can. How sad for you both...I am glad it's not me that will be seeing you tonight!!
Pack a small overnight bag (subtley), tell her, and leave for 24hrs. Avoid the Big Scene and keep it as low-key as possible. This could be the worst night of both of your lives. I will say a prayer for you, My Friend.
2007-03-07 10:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by lanitaslace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be best, if you have made up your mind, to have already filed and show her proof your serious.
It's smart too , to already know what your conditions are. What I mean by this, is already know what your willing to let her have and what you want from the personal things acciured during the marriage.
Any kids? Have that all set too, on if you want custody, or what times you want visitation.
This way, it will make her see that she needs to get on the ball and either agree with your terms or to fight you.
2007-03-07 10:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are she knows things are not going well. Make sure you stay calm. Be rational - she may not be. Do you plan on leaving- where are you going? Do you expect her to leave- where will she go? You should have some kind of "game plan" ready.
It sucks, but once you get your life back it is worth it.
2007-03-07 10:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by his temptress 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
think more before divorce, compromise and adjust
2007-03-07 10:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by keral 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋