why we limit our love, by marrying?

Question

why we put a limit on love by marrying one person

Answer 1

I dont think we limit it. Its just that there is one person in our life that we want to give all of our romantic love to. We give other people other kinds of love.

Answer 2

Maybe we marry because it's the respectable thing to do and we want to create a "nest" for bringing up children. Going in, we probably think that once committed, we will never ever want to be with anyone else and that as long as we are "really" in love, we won't wander.

The reality is that we are all imperfect beings and that like anything else worthwhile, marriage takes hard work. We also find out that marriage is more of a legal arrangement that makes sense in a lot of ways, but that - if it goes bad - can be a trap that's very difficult to get out of.

But, as far as putting a "limit" on love, I don't think so. I think what you are really asking is why get married to one person and limit our ability to sleep around without guilt...or something like that. There is nothing to compare with having children and magnifying your ability to love those individuals as they grow and develop. Then, there are grandchildren, which is an additional love that is unique as well. You can't have those kinds of love unless you marry and create a family. The family then continues from generation to generation in an orderly fashion. It's the basis for society. Without it, it all starts to fall apart.

Answer 3

I'm not sure what you mean by "limit our love," but I'll take a stab at this anyway.

I presume you mean that by marrying one person, we are limiting ourselves to love only that one person. That's not true. Certainly, you don't stop loving your parents, your friends, your children, etc.

I'd even go a step further, I'd say that it's possible to be romantically in love with someone else, and still committed and faithful to your spouse. Faithfulness is about actions, what you do and don't do, but romance is about feelings. Watch "Mr. Holland's Opas" and watch his relationship with the girl student (I forget her name at the moment) and tell me they aren't in love. It's obvious they are, but they never do anything that's a violation of his marriage.

Or maybe you want to have free sex without having to answer to anyone about it? Well, there are relationships (even marriages) like that as well, but they don't usually work that well. See the problem is, you only have so much time and so much energy in a day. So then you'd have to figure out how many romantic/sexual partners you can handle with whatever work load you've got. Two? Three? And then how do you handle it when one of your partners is in need, and you're exausted from another one of your partners? The way they usually end up working is one partner is the head of the harem (so to speak) and the others come after him/her in importance. Even if it starts out with the idea that things are going to be free and equal among all members, it doesn't take it long to degenerate into this, and the reason is just what I said before: there has to be an established way to deal with the problem of what to do when you're exausted from one lover and another needs your attention.

Most people don't want to share their lover. They want to have him/her avaliable to them any time they want (witin reason) and as such, monogamy is the best solution for most people.

Answer 4

I think you're talking about lust; not love.

When you truly LOVE someone, their happiness brings you happiness. You are attached emotionally. Your sensuality goes to a different level that you couldn't get causually. You have profound trust in that individual in knowing that they WANT to stay by your side through thick and thin, sickness and health... they want to protect you from harm and be a support to you. You respect each other.

There actually are a LOT of individuals that live the way you say... No commitments... I personally think it would be unfulfilling. A loving and responsible relationship also takes maturity. Sadly some people NEVER attain that level...

A healthy family structure consists of both parents and children. The child shouldn't have to worry about how many siblings they have from how many different mommies/daddies... WHO would care for the children while the custodial parent works? Oh MAN!!! A whole nation of kids raised in day cares... THAT would be a DISASTER!! They NEED family structure; parents that care about them... Without family commitment, they would be GROSSLY neglected while the parent is out constanty trying to "SCORE"! (Hey, in a marriage, you can always SCORE!!) And HOW would people be able to afford all the child support... I know, I know, use protection... Well, the only thing that's 100% is abstinance. Insurance rates would be outrageous due to the lifestyle. Not to mention they would have to have a whole new judicial division to cover all the paternity suits and legal messes it would likely create.

Then of course, there are the sexually transmitted diseases. You think they're bad now? WHOA!!! That would be a MAJOR disaster!! <8O (AND WHO will stand by you once that's contracted? You'd be ALONE! (And sad... ;`( )

Without that individual commitment, there is no security or emotional well-being. Who can you count on? Who will be there for you when you are sick, injured, or old?

That's my honest opinion... I hope it makes a little sense to someone. HUGS!!! ; )

Answer 5

I've been happily married for over 36 years to a wonderful, intelligent and sexy woman, and I don't understand your question.

Why do we "limit our love?" What does that mean?

If you mean "why do we have sex with just one person," the most common reason these days would be to minimize our chances of contracting STDs and dying of AIDS. There's no other woman out there that's going to give me better quality sex than I'm getting right now.

Another reason would be that the longer you're with someone, the better you get to know one another through all forms of communication, and the better you can arouse and satisfy one another.

Now, the only other thing your question could suggest is "how does marriage limit our loving other people."

Quite honestly, it does not limit our ability to love.

I love my wife, my parents, my sisters, my son, my grandson, my friends.

How does marriage limit my ability to love?

I can only assume that you were referring to sex; not love.

Answer 6

We aren't limiting love by marriage. When we marry, we just promise to be with that one person for life. Loving others isn't impossible, but sex and other major emotional sharing will be for the partner who got the high honors.

Only you can limit your love.

Answer 7

Marriage does not limit love. If someone was out whor_ing around with many "lovers" how does that count as love?

Answer 8

Your wrong, if you marry someone you love, that love has no limits. It continues to grow year after year, with every bump in the road.

Answer 9

Wrong, Love is still unlimited it's just that all of it
is given to the same person, and when you get
same love back then who wouldn't want that. Once
a person has experienced that then they would
know the feeling. I've been getting that same
love for 20yrs and am enjoying everday of it!!!!!!

Answer 10

You do not limit your love by marrying rather you express your love concretely through marriage. Through marriage you are committing yourself for life and you have to prove your deepest love to your beloved whom you chose freely. After marriage you are not closing yourself to love other people but not sexually nor emotionally but reasonably and sincerely and that's what we call brotherly love, motherly/fatherly love (to your motherand father), sisterly love to your own sister, etc.