He calls me every day, sometimes more than once - we were good friends for months, but now he calls me his girlfriend - we've slept together 3 x since January, but each time he had "equipment probems". he swears it's him, not me - thanks me for not putting pressure on him - says he is attracted to me, but i am beginning to think he is just not that into me & is trying not to hurt my feelings. he keeps calling though, sends me flowers, buys me gifts, is nice to my kids. anyone else go thru something like this?
(we are both in our 40's - i have been told by other men i am attractive & in good shape, he tells me he is under a lot of stress - back in the day he was known as a ladies man, so i am a little confused)
2007-03-07 02:31:00 · 21 answers · asked by born_free_again 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This might be something NEW for him, meaning that he could possibly be experiencing LOVE for the first time. Don't equate sex with intimacy or love. He obviously cares, he could be experiencing some issues with his need to satisfy you. Take it slow and let things progress. Try not to do the WOMAN thing. Allow him to be the man that loves you.
2007-03-07 02:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by Vernita B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's early in the relationship he may have some stage fright in addition to the valid medical concerns listed.
I'm almost 42 now, and when I first started dating my girlfriend, I had "difficulties." However, after a dozen times or so, I got over it, and can go three or four times a day without any little blue or purple pills.
I am in reasonable shape, probably 20# heavier than I was in my 20's, and I was a fit Army officer back in the day. So fitness does matter.
Give it some time, it will probably work out soon.
2007-03-07 03:21:26 · answer #2 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all he's in his 40'ssssssssss.. this is common to happen in men as early as their 30's its not you, he has penial erection disfunction, and untill he actually goes and seeks help from the doctor, this is going to continue.. it isnt u, its him, he has a medical condition , that happens when men get older, they tend to drop in their testosterone levels..and this happens, doesnt mean he doesnt want sex, doesnt mean he's not into u, cause he obviously is, men dont go through so much trouble as to buy flowers, give gifts and get close to ones children if their not wanting to consider the long haul of a relationship, he's not comming after u for sex cause look what happened the 3 times u tried.. it didnt work, u think ur feeling ego problems from this imagine how he's feeling ego wise knowing he cant help it, and its not wanting to work..so he's trying to avoid sex but compensating in other ways .. and its not an easy thing for men to admit to when theres a problem, and they tend to be embarrassed to admit it to a doctor..their brain says Yes i want sex, but their limbido says "nope sorry not going to happen today", and its not their fault, its not ur fault, it just something that happens to alot of men as they get older, remember his sexual peak was over 20 years ago.. and its not something a man feels comfortable talking about especially at the beginning of a relationship with a woman..but if u are close maybe u can try and get him to see a doctor...
2007-03-07 02:44:18 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is way into you so much that he is also trying to make up for his equipment issues materially. He could have a mental issue with sex or, he is at the age, prostate issues. Maybe he should see a doctor? Inflammed prostate will keep you from popping a good *****. A guy who hasn't had sex in a while either A) will have such a raging hard on he'll finish in seconds or B) be so nervous he can't perform.
2007-03-07 02:38:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow....at least he told you what the problem is.
It sounds like you are very sweet to him and the next time it happens I would just tell him that the actual sex isn't everything and that you still want to be intimate with him tonight. Tell him that he might want to see a doctor about it just to make sure it isn't something more serious than just ED (I don't think there are possibilities of something else but it will let him know that to you ED really isn't a big deal) and that you'll even go with him if he wants.
Here's a good website..
http://www.healthcentral.com/erectile-dysfunction/
2007-03-07 03:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by jlonva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has to do with a few things, like how long was he married, ,did he cheat on her, how much groping does he do and the big question is how fat is he, is he out of shape?? that causes huge erection problems,, Men that are fit can get it up and sustain a erection, fat guys have trouble, esp ones with high blood pressure,
have him go get a viagra sample from his doctor and a full check up too, half a pill worked wonders for me, I also feel it is my BP pills, which kepe blood pressure low,
also go to the health food store pick up some Larginine, and some Vitamin C 2000 mg daily, the Larginine will help the erection, couple pills a day and two half hour before sex,
2007-03-07 02:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok-sounds like he needs a little purple pill, but don't tell him that ! Blood pressure meds can affect a man also. Sound like he's a keeper just be patient and make me feel special. Why not just work on your friendship and try to stay out of the bedroom, etc. Be friends first and start going to church for something to do together-(lol)*
2007-03-07 02:37:38 · answer #7 · answered by anjoek5859 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the starting up, I particularly could say your ex sounds like a JackHole. Sheesh. besides, many states will honor out of state divorce/custody agreements. I advise contacting the county the position you'd be residing in Michigan and asking them what the technique is. each now and then it truly is only a count number number of filing a reproduction of your place of work artwork with them so that you'll implement it. I also advise no longer in line along with your ex for legal recommendations (no longer attempting to sound advise in any respect, yet of route he will say regardless of the truth that he needs that'd artwork in his want). I also imagine you ought to the contact a family members regulation legal professional because he or she will manage to be the perfect man or woman to handbook you through this mess. I wish you the perfect.
2016-12-05 09:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he calls you every day and sends flowers, I would say he definitely likes you. It is possible for him to have "equipment" problems. Stress, high blood pressure, diabetes and many other factors including medications or even serious problems like cancer or swollen prostate can lead to erectile dysfunction. Encourage him to see his doctor, not for your sake, but for his. Best case scenario, it may help to ease his mind knowing there is nothing physically wrong and the doctor may prescribe something to help. On the other hand, if it is something serious, they may be able to catch it in time to prevent serious harm or death.
2007-03-07 02:38:49 · answer #9 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the next time that you talk to him maybe you can talk to him about seeign a doctor for his man problems. Being in his 40 it could be ED and have nothing to do with you at all I hear it is fairly common. If he continues to do nice things for you and call you all on his own I would tend to believe what he says. Talk him about it and make suggestions on how to help him fix the problems he is having.
2007-03-07 02:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋