I am married a normal marriage, i dreamed last night that my husband was holding me against my will. I was not allowed to leave my room and I had to worship him and he would feed me crumbs and stuff. It was really weird. But i kept on trying to escape but no one would listen to me and they just sent me back to him. It was like i was imprisoned to the house and to him. Our marriage is nothing like this in real life so i dont know why i dreamed it. HELPP!!!!
2007-03-07 02:30:16 · 6 answers · asked by Holly G 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Holly, your dream isn't about your marriage, it's about your life. To understand this dream, it’s helpful to keep in mind why and how we dream. When we sleep, the body and perception systems are shut down, but the brain stem continues to fire and the cortex remains active. The thoughts that have been most active during waking hours—perceptions, experiences, thoughts and feelings, processed consciously or unconsciously—are still “peaked” and they associate with other images already linked in your cortex. In other words, the brain references this content, but not in a rational way, not using input from the external real world as in waking hours. So the story connectedness isn’t like everyday experience, but rather a strange flow from one image to the next. Therefore, dreams aren’t magical messages to guide our life, but sequences of associated images taken from everyday experiences - thoughts and feelings that matter a lot to us during our waking life. So it’s a mistake to apply one-size-fits-all symbols, such as Freudian meanings or standard “dreammoods” formulas. All you need to do is think about what kind of imagery it is and how it relates to your daily life.
Your imagery is about being confined, having to conform, and being unable to do what you really want to do. Like many people, you are probably living a fairly happy life, but a conventional one, and part of you feels that there are things you've always wanted, maybe even needed to do, that your life makes it hard to do these things. Like change career, or get more education or write a book, etc., but you have responsibilities...
These feelings probably have been stewing below the surface and were active when you went to sleep and simply associated with images from your everyday life, your marriage. I wouldn't be concerned about your marriage, but you might get in touch with what you really want to do with your life, discuss it with your husband and maybe take initial steps. Good luck!
2007-03-07 03:09:27 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dreams often over-dramatize small problems. This could be something as simple as you feel you have to do more chores than he does. Or maybe he's in charge of your finances and you think he spends more money on himself than he lets you spend on yourself. Something is unequal in your marriage and your subconscious wants you to do something about it.
Only you can figure out what the problem is. Be honest with yourself about what you might be resenting. Then be honest with your husband. I once made a list of what I did in the house versus what my husband did to show him I was stuck with too much. Be concrete with evidence like that. Try not to be confrontational like "Why are you doing this to me?" Be more "It's not obvious day to day, but when you really look at the big picture this is should be reorganized."
Good luck
2007-03-07 10:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget the dream. Fast. It's really normal to dream such weird things. I've actually dreamed of killing people whom I love very much, believe it or not, though I know I couldn't live properly without them. It's really unpleasant, and its unwise to dwell on such dreams. I'd erase it if I were you, because if you brood on it, it might affect your real life.
2007-03-07 10:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by beachblue99 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a couple of nights ago I dreamed my boyfriend killed u girl...and he is the nicest person ever...so dont let dreams upset u that much..they represent our fears or wishes and sometimes they are just our minds way of loosing up...it is possible that in your subconsciousness u miss being free in,u know,free in a teenage way,no obligations no husband...:)
2007-03-07 10:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by girlxxx86 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dreams are all actuallybased on the guilt and characteristics of the person dreaming them. you are actually the one holding your husband in captivity. get a divorce.
2007-03-07 10:39:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
your dream suggests loss of security or feelings of security, or someone else forcing their will on you
2007-03-07 11:15:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋