We have been dating for a year and months. My parents don't like him because he isn't attending college right now. They say we don't have a future. He is working and tells me he want's to attend college but not this year. I feel im on the spot to decide either my parents or the person I love.
2007-03-07 02:17:09 · 19 answers · asked by SexY MamA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When does he plan on attending? Think about your future and how he will provide for you...there is more to getting married than a ceremony honey....think before you get your bunns in hot water....
Maybe they see something in him that you don't or refuse to recognize.....after all, they only look out for YOUR best interest.
2007-03-07 02:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a parent, this is what I'd say.
Set your parents down and talk to them like adults, don't go with an attitude, but have an open mind to what their saying. Is schooling the only reason? If he was to do online courses towards a degree, would they be OK with that? if so address it with your b/f. Back in the day you actually had to attend school. Have him enroll for online courses, with a college. He can do the work after work, you can help him, your parents, should be happier
Their only looking out for your future, home, kids.etc. and a H.S. diploma don't get no more. If your parents still are happy then there's something else going on. But there's no excuse why he can't get his schooling online. and if he's not willing you need to think about that also.
A true man always tries to better himself and others
Hope this helps, email if you need too
2007-03-07 02:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he isn't attending college doesn't mean you guys can't have a future together! my boyfriend does not go to college, but he has a job and we are going to get married in a few years. you can totally have a future together that doesn't include college.
just tell your parents that. tell them that you both love each other and that is what matters - not whether he is in college!
good luck!
2007-03-07 02:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by captain jack sparrow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not your parents' decision. If you love each other and have decided that this is what you want, they will just have to learn to acept it.
I suggest trying to break it to them easy. Both of you should invite them out for dinner in a casual restaurant. Make it some place that they can't go ballistic on you without making a fool of themselves. Let them know that you are wanting to celebrate and leave it at that. Try to lead the conversation by using their marraige as how you admire them for staying together through thick and thin... and so on. Kinda like buttering them up, but try to be sincere. The let them know that this is what you really want and that you'd like their blessing. Have your man ask for their blessing.
Good luck!
2007-03-07 02:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by Penny's from Heaven 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well ultimately it is your life, and your parents have to let go at some point. This, however, doesn't come without conflict at times so if you feel you have to choose you shouldn't feel that way. I would say that if your parents love you, and I'm sure they do, they will not be happy but they will support your decision in the end. Let them talk and say what they have to say, take it into account and then do what makes you happy.
2007-03-07 02:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by sassinya 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your parents. They are only looking out for your future financial welfare. Wait until your man goes to college and gets an education before considering marriage. If he does not complete his education before marriage, once married he will not have the time to do so. Then you two will be fighting due to financial difficulties, especially when the babies start coming along. Your parents have lived longer than you have, therefore they have experienced life longer than you have, listen to them. They are only trying to save you grief and heartache for later on. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-07 02:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol well i was in the same boat as you, they hated my wife,,,i told my mom once, an she said ,if you do i dis owe you, so ,,i waitted to the day of the wedding an told her again, ,,,she then thought i was lieing,,, i did go on my way, got stop my a cop, for driveing to fast, an when i did stop, he was a older man, an ask,, son where the fire,,, i told him i was on my way to get married,,, he look at me an said ,,,,Son take a old may word turn around an go the other way lool,,, well running at a 1 33 mile a hour, i could went to jail,, but him seeing i realy was on my way, i got the full treament,lol light an horn blasting,,,,,, it hurt that my mother did not come, to the wedding, an she hated my wife up till the day she die,,,, but you got to do, what make you happy,,,,,,, for if you realy love this person,, no matture, what they say going to change you mind,,,an my mother told me the same thing, she was, no future in her,,, well that was 33, almost 34 year ago,,, an we stiil together,, do what you heart tell you,
2007-03-07 02:35:42 · answer #7 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like this,
"I'm getting married"
It's not their decision.
On the flip side, are you sure you want to get married while still in school? I had a friend who got engaged in College but waited until after graduation and they both had jobs to tie the knot. Maybe you should consider a long engagement too.
2007-03-07 02:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by stn1225 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you have to remember it's your life and your happiness, not your parents. If you truly love him and feel you are ready to make this decision tell your parents that you love him and you believe in him. You know that he may not be their ideal mate for their daughter but you know that he respects and loves you just as much as you do him. Your parents will come around eventually, they just want their daughter to have the best life possible, you need to assure them that this is what you want and this will make you happy, usually that is all parents want for their children.
2007-03-07 02:24:53 · answer #9 · answered by cheesussinclair 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know when my daughter married it was very difficult. Please take your parents out to dinner with your soon to be husband. Tell them you can't possibly understand how hard this maybe for them ... and you love them very much. Then explain to them it's time for you to live your life. Make your own success, joy, and even mistakes. Tell them they raised you right and it hurts you deeply that they do no approve of your partner ... However your an adult and your in love and your going to love this man and it would be very special if they loved him too. Tell them your going to really need them ... and if you have grandchildren you want a happy, healthy, family. Tell them you have complete confidence in your mans ability to take care of you. Best Wish's!
2007-03-07 02:25:22 · answer #10 · answered by Summer 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋