but they show respect for every old person they meet socially,
but in their personal lives women don't respect their inlaws who are very old and helpless.
isn't our society hypocrate...
2007-03-07 02:11:42 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IF YOU DON'T RESPECT YOUR INLAWS YOU DON'T RESPECT YOUR SPOUSE
2007-03-07 02:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by sonya h 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
MY wife respects my parents. My brother wife respects them too. Out of more than a hundred couples that I know, a very less percentage of couples have problems with their in-laws (both guys and ladies), None of them hs ever shown any ill treatment towards women, None of them, ywho got married within last 15 years, have accepted dowry (Don't know about the others), most of the couples I know have gone for arranged marraige and are happy with their married life, a lot of them have single child, none of them had ever gone for abortion just because it was a girl.
So I don't really understand, where do you people gather your statistics from. It's not most women, it's some women. The problem could genuinely be with the in-laws, or it could be with the way they were raised.
god bless you...
:-)
2007-03-07 17:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, not all women are like that. My wife has a great relationship with my parents and is very kind, thoughtful and considerate of them. I try to be the same way with my mother in law. We both do our best to have good relationships with each others families. It's a matter of respect for your spouse and the people who raised them.
2007-03-07 10:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My in-laws are neither old or helpless. they are only 48 and 50 years old. You are correct about respecting my mother-in-law though. I don't but it's because of the way she treats me, my husband and my kids, and also because of what she did when my husband was growing up. She is a selfish woman that never follows through on her word. My kids are even to the point that they call her a liar (they say it to us, not her) when she says she'll get them for a weekend or call to talk to them. They know she won't do it. I do respect my father-in-law. He treats us with respect too. Respect has to be earned and she hasn't earned it from any of us yet.
2007-03-07 10:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It appears to me that you aren't worried so much about respect for in-laws as respect for the MOTHER-in-law. I respect my in-laws. I even love them. The problem enters when the in-laws mistakenly think the respect / love extends to giving the right to try to control my husband or stick their noses into our decisions regarding OUR marriage. So no, there is no hypocrisy involved - just men with "Mommy issues" (and mommies who refuse to accept that their son is NOT a baby anymore and there's another woman stepping in on "her territory"!)
BTW - most mother-in-laws I know AREN'T old & helpless. Most are my age (early 40's) when their sons get married!
2007-03-07 10:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely loved my ex mother-in-law and have always wished she were my mother. I think when in-laws butt in to a marriage too much, that's when the women loose respect, because it makes them feel like the in-laws think they aren't good enough. But, I have never experienced it personally, so maybe someone else can help a little more.
2007-03-07 10:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FYI; Most inlaws set themselves up for this treatment when they are first rude and unaccepting to the new spouse.
Neither a wife or a husband should have to put up with rude behavior of inlaws.
You get what you give.
2007-03-07 10:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is not true. I respect my in-laws and treat them like I do my own parents. Unfortunately, my mother in law doesn't respect me. She sent me a rude email last week and I haven't done anything at all. Now I want nothing to do with her. I respect her because she is my husband's mother. I respect everyone until they disrespect me.
2007-03-07 10:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by Mom of Three 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it shows clearly from what u said is that they r kind hearted they have soft corners for elders but there might have been lil problem for this lady with her inlaws like bad comment or talks or expressions which she doesnt like or not able to digest adn not able to tell them and her husband thinking he will alwasy support parents.
also this feeling has to come naturally for the person not by forcing them. it depends ont eh behaviour of inlaw towards this lady so she treats them like god.
2007-03-07 10:41:26 · answer #9 · answered by slv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most women?? where are you getting this information from?? Some women don't get along with their in-laws just as some men don't get along with theirs. Sometimes it's the in-laws problem, maybe they're being over protective of their son/daughter. There are many reasons why someone may or may not get along with their in-laws but it's extremely ignorant for you to say that most women don't respect their in-laws...
2007-03-07 10:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by Allie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess it goes both ways, I have heard of the inlaws not approving of their daughter in laws or son in laws. I think respect should go both ways.
2007-03-07 10:16:03 · answer #11 · answered by hokiedokie24 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋