I am falling apart.?

Question

All I do is cry. I feel so heartbroken. The one I love left me. I am an emotional wreck. How can I deal with this?

Answer 1

Baby, get some help. You need to talk to someone. It is understandable that you are depressed and heartbroken. But you really need to talk to someone to help you get through this. You need to try and get back to doing what you llike to do. Don't focus on the heartache. It will be hard but you will eventually get over him and find someone else who will treat you better.

Answer 2

Take a deep breath and look in the mirror. Thank him for doing you a favor. I know it's so hard. Having been there in college I built my entire life around a guy who left me. Ugh - I was so sad, so lonely.
Right now write down all the crappy stuff he did (leaving you was a favor)!
Whose your best friend? Call her - make plans. What have you wanted to do but haven't (dance, cooking class, do it)!
Can you get out of town for the weekend and see a friend?
Do it.
Wanted a new pair of shoes, and a purse go buy it.
Hair- wanted it short, a different color change.
It's ok to play a sad song and cry. It's part of healing.
I once heard a break up is like a death. Mourn the stages.
If after a month you aren't doing better call your family doctor.

Most of all hug yourself, deep breath and say I am wonderful.
Somewhere somehow this is a blessing. There is someone better out there - and or he'll return with his tail between his legs and realize you are amazing.

Oh and the guy who broke my heart led me to a few losers
but I molded some wonderful memories in there with friends.
And by least expecting it I met and married someone I met on a trip I almost didn't take. So thanks Rob V where ever you are.
I have 3 amazing kids and met a better man!
You can only start to feel better - and by doing this you need to inhale and do things for you. Good luck.

Answer 3

OK, are you done feeling sorry for yourself? Did you cheat on him or run him off? NO, well then why are you feeling bad? He saved you the trouble of getting a divorce later, when you found out he was troll.
So call some girlfriends, tell them you need them for 2 evenings. Friday, meet them go to dinner, and shopping, BUY something.
Sat. evening get together and go clubbing, more shopping etc. But stop setting around the house looking around at where he sat and all that B.S.
There is I promise you someone out there who will fill your every day evening and night with happiness and joy. I know because I found mine.
You do need to do one more thing for your ex. send him a thank you card, for setting you free to live again,because now you know what you don't in a man.
My ex cheated, booted me out,took my kids and told the cops I hit her,I used to be a cop. never ever never, just her way to make sure I didn't come back home, her b/f moved in the next day.
I was devastated, my life was over and all you women were the same gold digging %$#^&#& UNTIL I met a lady who had been married twice before, which had me worried.
Now that were newlyweds almost 12 yrs. now, she is the BEST thing that ever happened to me. She is the last love of my life.

Hope this helps, email me if you need too

Answer 4

Get involved in other activities. If you are not in college, take a class. If you are in college or school, join a club. Take some time to read, be introspective, find out what you want in life. I found it very helpful to help others when I was broken hearted. I did the big brother thing and it took the focus off of my own problems. It just takes a lot of crying and understanding that the pain will go away and each day will become better, the sun will shine brighter and you will heal. No magic pill, unfortunately. :(

Answer 5

We all fall apart, I am right now and it's only been about 2 weeks. Only time will heal that wound, I have been visiting my 2 yr old newphew. I love him so much and he keeps me so happy. Take on an extra job or class where you are reqired to stay on top of things because the results depend on your performance. Work out that is such a relief, cry you have too it helps. Talk to people it helps so much, let it out. Get your self so tired during the day that you will sleep at nights. I watch tv, my favorite shows. When you do think about him, tell your self. I hope hes OK and I will be ok too, its for the best. I don't want someone who doesn't want to be with me. Its all in your mind and it is so powerful, we tend to believe the negative because its easy to do so. You will be OK in time I promise.

Answer 6

Don't shave your head just yet. Nothing you can do will stop this unless you decide you don't want it anymore. You have done the best you could in a situation and gave it your all and it is showing in your heart. Just realize nothing you can do can stop someone from leaving. Keep your mindbusy and go running or pick up a hobby. Most of all get around friends and family and get out of your safety zone and in front of people. Time will pass alot quicker if you realize there was nothing you could do to change what happened.

Answer 7

Been there, just recently. First of all, allow yourself to cry, just let it out (in private) Crying released endorphins that naturally make you feel better. Then what I did, because I really didn't have anyone to talk to, since the only person I was use to talking to was him. I stared an on line diary, that was private. That way no one would accidentally find it. I wrote what ever I was feeling. I thought it would be a good reference latter. It is.

Answer 8

Please do not listen to these jokers. Okay look at it this way, you are better off and you should know that now. So now you know that he does not love you, and that hurts, but your are sad because you want him back. So you are telling me you are going to waste time in your life focusing on the idea of getting somebody back that does not love you. Seriously, you do not want that. Being sad or depressed is a choice you make. How long are you going to choose to be in this mind set. Get up, take a shower and focus on the new exciting things the future has to offer you. No matter how painful those first steps are get up and take them now. This is purgatory honey, you want to take the past back, but refuse to move into the future. Get the hell out!

Answer 9

I hate to be the one to say this but it takes time. Time is the only thing that heals a broken heart. You can distract yourself by finding things you enjoy doing to fill up your spare hours during the day but all in all you have to face the night and I know that is hard, just give it time and cry all you want.

Answer 10

Only time can heal a broken heart
try keeping your mind ocupied with any other thoughts except that one person. It is hard to get over the one you love but try thinking about the things you hated most about him/her and laugh it off - it will get better