My Husband's sister and her crazy party?

Question

My Sister in law is turning 25 on Sat and she met this doctor guy who lives in a mansion, to make this story short. She is throwing this huge combined b-day bash with her best friend, and it will be a lingerie party.
My husband and I along with friends of ours will be going, the thing is that i'm jealous and it bothers me to go to a paty where all the girls will be half naked in lingerie drinking all night, I can easily ignor the situation by dressing the same and looking hott (besides we ARE married and he will be going home with me) but now we might just go with all of our guy friends (which are like brothers to me) but this is because my girl friends are more jealous and a bit more insecure than I (they dont think they would look good in lingerie) what should I do? should I just put my jealous thoughts behind and show him that i am confident in our relationship and in my skin? Or should I band him from attending his sisters bash?

I spoke with my husband and he understands how I feel. so it will be up to me to decide if who will go or not.

Answer 1

My suggestion to you is never to ban your husband from anything because it could def. turn on you. I think that you need to understand that he is with you and he loves you more than anything and just looking at some girl will not change the way he feels about you. Its hard to get over jealousy or insecurity, believe me I know. He loves you...not the other girls, no matter what they are wearing. Try to have fun and just remember that he is going home with you and only you.

Answer 2

Its a little weird that his sister has invited him to a lingerie party in the first place. Number 2, if you are that insecure about your husband who will be by your side during the party, looking at other women in lingerie, than you must be doing something wrong. My first thoughts were this must me in kentucky...lol But maybe you should just let the little sister have her party and chill, you know if he sees other hott women in lingerie, that he is going to go home to you and be all excited when he gets home, besides it could make for some wild times that night together.

Answer 3

I wouldn't go. Your sister in law's birthday party sounds tasteless, especially because her own brother will be there, Evidently she does not care if her brother and his friends see her dress in lingerie. Having said that, a lingerie party is one thing and I would not blame you for not going, I mean I have seen some lingerie which are pretty revealing and leaves nothing to the imagination. But would you feel the same way if it were a pool party where all will be dressed in swim wear? In other words, ask yourself if this is a problem for you because as I agree, lingerie is inappropriate, or because of insecurity issues. Anyway, going back to your sister in laws idea of a lingerie party. Appears as if she and her friends feel they have to attract guys by revealing what they got which that in itself is sad. I hope you decide on whatever feels right to you. Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

Um, the birthday sounds really tacky.....and completely CLASSLESS. The Dr. has absolutely no interest in your sister-in-law other than what is apparently her trashy way. As she has invited married ppl along with singles, she should have thought about this a little more. This is more of a singles party or a swinging party than a birthday party. I would suspect this at the playboy mansion. I just don't this this is a place for married couples....and if she really wanted family and married friends there.....then she would have had a classy party.....but if she is looking to marry this DR. guy.....OH WELL, just like all other men...he will want someone who is classy, and acts and dresses that way, someone that he can be proud of and take to meet the parents.....she ain't it.....Your sister-in-laws reputation precedes her.

I would thank your sister-in-law for the invite and not go...unless you want a good night in bed when you get home. It was just not right to put married ppl in this situation.

Answer 5

I've got to tell you, there is NOTHING hotter than a jealous wife at a party! I mean it, if you want to turn a guy on NOTHING will do it faster than insecurity and self centeredness! Oh, and BANNING a guy... from his own sisters party? WOW I can't see how a marriage like that can't be anything but a resounding success.



I can understand and respect being uncomfortable about attending a party like this but do you actually hear what you are saying? Can you not see how UNBELIEVABLY self centered you sound? Would you want to be married to you?

Rather than... behaving the way you are, why don't you try... respect. Why not CALMLY and reasonably telling him that you are uncomfortable attending this kind of party, and ask him what he thinks the two of you should do.

Now, if you have spent the previous years laying a groundwork of respect towards him, it will be rewarded. However, if you have spent your time being selfish and demanding, you may have a fight on your hands.

Answer 6

do not go to this classless lowlife party not you nor your husband, lingerie is for a romantic couple, only for your husband to see you in and why does she want her brother to view her that way? there's more to this girl than meets the eye. Is it possible she is jealous of your happy marriage? [and how could he allow men to see you!] I'm telling you-you are introducing trouble into your marraige--your husband will not get the sight of other women out of his mind's eye, and first arguement; he would be thinking of at least one of them. Your sister in law is a low life and she has no business dating an educated doctor, he will see her for what she is, sooner or later. She is not the type a doctor would ever marry.

Answer 7

I understand, as I'm the same way to an extent. Keep a couple things in mind, there will be a lot of ppl. there, and your husband may notice somebody, but how many heads will turn because of you? If I were you, I'd get together with my girlfriends and go shopping, all of you get the hottest outfits with hose and high heels. I'll assure you your husband and the boy's wives will keep their attention on you, because other guys will be watching, so it will keep your hubby close to your side, at least it would for me.

Hope this helps

Answer 8

This goes way beyond showing you have confidence, Browneyed. This is just plain stupid and tasteless. No couple who truly respects one another would go to a party like this together and risk the obious fallout. Say no to the party, get some dinner reservations and see a great movie or go to a lingerie store and buy something sexy and spend the night together, alone, reinforcing your love for one another.

Answer 9

Why would you deliberately put yourself in a situation that could end up causing hurt feelings and jealousy? Why would you deliberately put your husband in a situation where there will be half naked girls, alcohol flowing and then expect him not to look/flirt etc? And then you will turn around and be angry and hurt when the night is over?

Don't go. It isn't worth it and yes it does sound like a stupid party. Don't do this to yourself or your husband. It doesn't sound like he even wants to go anyway.

Answer 10

your husband sounds very understanding. u r lucky! if u really think about it, guys will b looking at u 2! he just might b the 1 2 get jealous! make an areement that he won't let his eyes wander TOO much, and if u start 2 feel uncomfortable, take him aside, get him hot n bothered n take him home (you've already got the right gear on!) that way u save face n u both end up happy at the end of the night!