i get nervous around my family when my girlfriend tries to kiss me or be affectionate. they all know im a lesbian and have no problem with it. we have been together 9 years and still i clam up when she tries to touch me in public. how can i change this?
2007-03-07 01:45:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You say that your family accepts you, but maybe you are just not really that comfortable with it. Or maybe thats just you, some people aren't all about PDA. I love PDA, but thats just me, out and proud. You should talk to your girlfriend about what you are and aren't comfortable with, because obviously she has a problem with this or you would not be trying to change it. I can identify with you on some level, my parents love me and accept me, they love my girlfriend, but they are older and do not think that ANY couple should be making out in public. I see no need to make them uncomfortable in their own house, so I try to keep the PDA to a minimum when we visit. My girl understands, its a matter of having good manners, and a matter of what is apropiate when and where. As far as you clamming up when she touches you in public is another thing. My advise is to try to figure out why you feel this way in the first place, and be honest with yourself, and then be honest with her and talk it out.
2007-03-07 03:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by The One and Only 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just not into public affection like that - actually, I think (and this is my opinion) it's somewhat disrespectful to kiss, etc. in front of your family. I'm just not a public display person. Not for any type of couple. Keep all of that in private!
2007-03-07 10:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by downinmn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try practicing in less public places. Like holding hands at a restaurant, or the movies.
maybe kiss while at a red light.
stuff like that to get use to PDA.
2007-03-07 10:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by chucknkeith1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first and foremost, you should talk to your girlfriend so she doesn't think that you're ashamed of her. Then you should just let her know that public displays of affection are out ... I don't think it's just you, lots of couples don't like to make out in front of their parents. Just make sure the two of you are on the same page.
EDIT: Nish, please.
2007-03-07 09:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Subconsciously you may not think your family has truly accepted you and you do not want to put on a show for them to attack you on. Give it a try again, and try to think about how much you love her.
2007-03-07 10:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your family is comfortable with it but are you.. Have you ever wanted to wonder to the other side of the fence.
2007-03-07 10:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by whit g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice. das Paar, das zusammen die zusammen Aufenhalte spielt.
2007-03-07 09:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't, that's just your nature jumping in knowing that you're not following the guidleines of God. He made us, but He didn't make us to sleep with the same sex. It's perfectly natural, I'm sure you're not by yourself honey. Hang in there, you'll be delivered from that spirit. And yes your partner could be a nice person, but God is calling you higher than were you are. Take up your cross and follow Him, He'll love you like no human can, and won't condemn you like man does. I think what I'm trying to say is your time as a lesbian is up, and it's time to find your Lord. Who is Jesus!!! I love you in the love of Christ, Be blessed sister!
2007-03-07 09:50:23 · answer #8 · answered by Nish 4 · 1⤊ 7⤋
Why should you change? It's who you are. Discuss it with her.
2007-03-07 10:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋