2007-03-07 01:38:56 · 33 answers · asked by Bob M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Such a good question, baby fat is difficult for some, the answer their is watch your weight before hand and during pregnancy. I see so many young girls after one child just let themselves go, and that is a shame and they wonder why their guy is looking elsewhere, stop with the groceries girls. exercise also, walk that baby never mind the car...you truly don't have to be fat after, a lot is laziness, and excuses, well i just had a baby, 30 years later they are still blaming the kid....get off that couch.....!!!! ps this doesn't apply to ALL.
2007-03-07 01:47:39 · answer #1 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well Bob, generally a woman doesn't have time to devote to herself, with dealing with the baby and a husband. It's very crappy of you to say such a thing. Your wife can always lose weight, go tanning, put on some make up, and over all look great, and men will find her attractive. After a few years of marriage men tend to get a pot belly (that doesn't go away, because it's definatley not a baby.), their hair starts falling out, and they tend to be quite lazy. But women keep them around, and don't complain. I think your a jerk, and I hope your wife lose's the baby weight and you have to bend over backwards to keep her happy and turned on. Keep in mind Bob, Women have babies because men are not strong enough to, and it was your child that put the few extra pounds on her. So go buy her some flowers and tell her how much you appreciate all she does for you and your babies. Don't be so ungrateful.
2007-03-07 02:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not all women go to pot after having a baby. Sometimes it does take a little of time to get back to pre pregnancy wait but come on..they carried a baby for 9 months, have a little sympathy. Alot of women dont expect their husband to find them sexy, in fact it is the opposite. Their husbands still find them sexy but the wifes dont feel sexy!!!
2007-03-07 01:43:24 · answer #3 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I personally never had this problem... i was born with awesome genes, but many women really have to work at getting their bods back after having a baby. Many women don't have the time to do it. When people's (men or women's) bodies "go to pot", it is usually a time issue, or a self-esteem issue. Suggest working out together as a couple. I am sure you are in great shape, and could support her this way. :o)
2007-03-07 01:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by AMoRous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes 9 months to gain the weight of pregnance it takes about the same to lose it. I have seen very few women get fat and go to "pot" just because they had a baby. Chances are more in favor that they are suffering from depression and that is the cause of the weight gain and lack of taking care of her looks.
Men tend to get "beer gut" as they age and they expect their wives to still want sex and find them attractive....guess what? WE DON'T so the door swings both ways.
2007-03-07 02:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
After a woman gives birth she still has all these hormones going through her body. She isn't used to so many hormones so she will act differently. As for their husbands finding them sexy, guys should find their wives sexy. Especially after birth. They have just given you a child. That is beautiful. They put their bodies through hell for you so the least you can do is still find them attractive and sexy. The last thing a post partem woman needs is for the love of her life to tell her she is fat and not sexy. That is terrible.
2007-03-07 02:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Excuse me, but:
1) YOU carry a baby for 9 months and see what it does to YOUR body! (Especially if you do it more than once!)
2) if you really love your spouse, you WILL always find them sexy! There's MUCH more to being sexy than looks! With your attitude, it's a wonder ANYBODY would find YOU sexy!
"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who reverences the Lord is greatly to be praised" Proverbs 31:30
FYI - I lost ALL of my pregnancy weight after both of my daughters were born, but age / time catches up to most of us eventually.
2007-03-07 01:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well not al women do but i will tell you what -you strap on an extra 20-40 pounds for almost a year than have it ripped out of you all in a matter of hours -and right afterwards deal with a newborn baby and a spouse who cannot understand what your body is going through-lets see how hot you feel...because guess what sweetheart you put her in that predicament and now complain that she is not sexy-how about supporting her and encourage her to hit the gym and make it worth while to look nice for you-because lets face it YOU probably need work too....:)
2007-03-07 01:47:17 · answer #8 · answered by baseballlover 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Usually there are more factors involved in signifigant body type fluctuations after pregnancy than can be enumerated here. If you want to really know you should do some research there have been many studies done linking weightloss in women to all kinds of things after pregnancy it just depends on your lady and the situation she puts herself in. And if you have a problame with your wife after she has YOUR kid and want to criticize her then you don't deserve to have a family. You should be supportive and if she wants to get in shape you should help her but if she is comfortable how she is and wants to stay that way then you should accept it.
2007-03-07 01:45:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because their husbands go to pot belly and expect the same wives to feel sexy whenever the husband is horny
2007-03-07 01:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋