I am recently divorced and starting to date again. I have been casually seeing this girl from church the past month and this past weekend we had the most amazing time and kissed on a moon lit walk on the beach. Like a movie. Since then, I can't stop thinking about this girl to the point where it affects everything I do. I feel pathetic and unable to control my emotions. I am always wondering if the next thing I say is going to mess it up and scare her off and I am always wondering if she thinks about me the way I think about her. Is this just part of it or does this mean I am not healthy enough to date? Its pretty intense, fun and scary at the same time.
2007-03-07 01:36:21 · 12 answers · asked by fedup 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please enjoy this,this is the most wonderful feeling and it won't last long, but when it goes away and you still desire only her, she may be the one. Just don't be overly emotional or say too much too fast you may come across being emotionally unstable or needy.
2007-03-07 01:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it usually is-but-you just went through a divorce so almost anything looks good to you at this point. However, it's all part of the scene, moonlit night, new person, first kiss, etc. like you said 'in a movie'--where everything looks so romantic. Now it's the next day look again--she is in reality just another person, but you need her to be special, that's why you are clinging to this elusion of yours. I'm not saying she isn't the right girl for you, I don't know that. Chances are you fell in love with the night, and the thought of belonging to somebody, the thought of not being alone. You being just recently divorced; this is not a good time for you to even think about getting serious. When you go to church do not let this distraction keep you from the real reason of being there--worshiping God with all your heart.
2007-03-07 09:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, you're horny. Real true love is cultivated over time and involves a lot more than squirmies in the stomach and moonlit walks. Sure those are nice and fun and could be the start of a wonderful relationship but a month in to it? Uh, no. Now don't make the mistake of shacking up with this girl and or getting her pregnant BEFORE you get married!
2007-03-07 09:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by conservamommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not ready to start dating. Take more time so that you don't end up in a bad relationship once again. Don't go from the frying pan into the fire. You need to learn and understand what happen to your first marriage so that the same mistakes are not repeated. And go and speak to your minister, he will be your best source of help you understand.
2007-03-07 09:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by judy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal in a new relationship when two people have things in common, are attracted to each other, and have a lot of chemistry. Don't worry about "why" you are feeling that way, just enjoy it! I'm happy for ya!
2007-03-07 09:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's typical.
That "romantic rush" doesn't EVER last, however, so if you ultimately want to meet someone to spend "forever" with, you need to realize that this hormone-based surge is temporary and WILL fade out.
The good ones fade into a comfortable sexy friendship that is something worth fighting to save.
That's when you know you've found the "keeper".
2007-03-07 09:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by sewmouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The beginning of dating is always intense. Talk with her but do not express to much information
2007-03-07 09:41:04 · answer #7 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical and I hope you just are not having rebound issues here.
Otherwise you and the girl could get hurt.
2007-03-07 09:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES ! that is ALL normal. Happened to me everytime I was with a special girl.
2007-03-07 12:41:27 · answer #9 · answered by dralls4lyf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take her in the church in a dark corner.
2007-03-07 09:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋